Just yesterday , Qing and I were talking about when I first married my late Wife . I was 25 and she was 37 , which here in the States did cause "Me" to be quite embarrassed/uncomfortable with most People staring at us in Public . It bothered me for some time , that I grew a Mustache/Beard to look older . I finally got over it , as you might know .. this has caused unwanted feelings between us . She did not want me to feel embarrassed being seen with her by my side . Mentioning that she also had seven Children already when we first met , also put on a lot of strain with Family Member's and Friends alike . Love for each other , is what got us through this period and it lasted til her passing almost thirty years later .
Now , being married again to my LaoPo ( in '08 ) at 55 and she was 40 .. it is kind of in reverse now from my viewpoint . I got those same kind of stares early on , but in China this time . This time it was "No" problem at all for both of us . Oh .. I noticed those stares , the only difference was ; I was too happy having Qing on my Arm and Qing was also happy/in love .. showing all those chinese Men .. she's not too "Old" to be loved the way a Woman should at her age . I in turn looked at my LaoPo's feeling , as .. all you Fools don't know what you're missing out on . The best years in a Women's Life .
This is of course only from my prospective , as other's will handle it all their own kind of way . Age , what I learned from my experience .. it only matter's .. if you let it matter !