ATM lifestyles
I was visiting the other site's forum yesterday and stumbled on something of interest. It had to do with money. Kind of straitforward...it was a comment concerning a couple of women from northern China advising a southern Chinese woman in the “how to” or the art of extracting money from their foreigner. If I have that correct. Good. If not, it does not matter. Still this got me to thinking of husbands and wives, domiciled together. In other words, husband & wife together under a roof acting like husband & wife normally do.
Now the thing is, my northern China wife will be coming to me in early March. Any monies sent to her have seemingly disappeared into a China void. Accountability be damned. When she is here I want to set up OUR account. I also will maintain my own account to pay the mortgage and revolving credit card debt. Maybe the power bill & so forth. I figure she can be responsible for the household features. Food, cooking, & cleaning, so forth. Her English is nill. She will contribute to whatever workload of comfort exists. She is a great cook, she is great in all facets in the relationship. Until there is an issue.
But I am learning to speak her language, “yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes...whatever...yes, yes, yes, yes...”. I was advised this by a Korean woman where I work. Always say yes, never no. Also, spoil the wife like a baby. Treat her like a baby. Always. I guess this is the ultimate key to success when logical line of reasoning fails. Of which, if you are married to a Chinese woman, all reasoning is lost in translation, or is it. Always take the safe tact of attack. Say yes. Retreat to the rear.
Getting back to my original intent. What are the members experiences when the wife and husband are together? I plan to transfer monies into our common account for her to pay the grocery and household expense items, miscellaneous expenditures & so forth. Do you think that in itself is enough to please her? I mean your woman is with you now. Not China. Of course I will monitor it since I am to fund it. When she is here, I will sit her down and explain the rules of the road. Yeh right, if that will happen. The monies are hers, for food & household expenses, whatnot. But I know there has to be some 'slush' of sorts, I mean there has to be some 'mad' money for her. How do you guys do this? Is there some easy way? Any logic to this unseen madness.
Money is important to these women.
