Thanks much to all. It is interesting read. Just curious if there are failures of sorts. I am sure there must be. After all, different people, different cultures, different presentations. What to be aware of. Did life go from good, to bad, or worst, ugly. I suppose there will always be an on-going, a flowing corrective action.
Oh, it will be a different year. Just got off QQ. Basically 3 hours of Jing clutching her China past or the successes of her good friends with their Western husbands. She is so unsure of things will work for her, that she is defensive. She has mentioned she is spoiled. Having never to break a sweat in life. In the past, she has said to me that she has no desire to leave China, except to be with me, her husband.
Most, if not all her friends, have emigrated.
Anyway, patience & understanding is about all that I exercise. ALL that I can exercise. The next 2 months of whatever awaits. I incorporate all good things into our chats. Her letters are great. When I told her I wanted her with me early March, there were no issues with that. She was receptive. I just think I have to hold her hand on every little baby step that presents itself. As in “reassurance”. I have no problem with this as I want to do this for her.
Yes, everything will be in English. She is coming along with that. She learns with motivation. My hearing is not good. But I will attempt learning Mandarin. I have the Skype, the QQ. Robert Snellgrove mentioned to me of the Chinese television being available on a different satellite. Something I will do too.
Her immigration is CR1, a 2- year conditional visa. My understanding, I think after a month & a half or so, she will receive her Social Security card & work permit. I do not know what she thinks of this. Of course her English is very limited. I place no time constraints on her. Nor will I. She will learn by her way. With my help if she so desires.
I suppose once the novelty of new existence wears off, she will take control of a few things. The house, ala DavidE. My feeling is that she wants control of more than just a few things, like money matters...maybe, PROBABLY, the can of worms in any relationship. A caveat. This China “face” thing is a monster. We will have to sit. Discuss. Crunch numbers. Basically, for umpteen years, I pay all the house bills, all debt, off the computer.
Maxx, I think you are so correct about the food. This will be a trial of sorts. She is very particular about food. I had to eat all the chocolates I brought along my first visit. Go figure. I imagine it's the fresh food markets from now on.
Anyway, I thank all the members for their good input, particularly Maxx, DavidE, & Robert Snellgrove for his good work on immigration.
It will be a brave new world in 2012. The best to all!
