6. ALIMONY:
A. WIFE waives any right to Alimony in favor of the following payment schedule:
i) The WIFE will receive a payment of Twenty‐Thousand Dollars ($20,000) for each year married if either party files for divorce less than 5 years from the date of marriage, or the Husband will be responsible for his support amount to WIFE under the Immigration Laws of the United States, whichever is lesser.
ii) The WIFE will receive a one‐time payment of One Hundred Thousand Dollars ($100,000.00) if either party files divorce 5 years or greater from the date of the marriage or the Husband will be responsible for his support amount to WIFE under the Immigration Laws of the United States, whichever is the lesser.
iii) If either party files divorce after 10 years from the date of the marriage the WIFE will receive a one‐time payment of 10% of the HUSBAND’s assets as determined by the date of filing of the Divorce.
iv) If either party files for divorce after 15 years from the date of the marriage the WIFE will receive a one‐time payment of 15% of the HUSBAND’s assets as determined by the date of filing of the Divorce.
v) If either party files for divorce after 20 years from the date of the marriage the WIFE will receive a one‐time payment of 33.3% of the HUSBAND’s assets as determined by the date of filing of the Divorce.
I was a divorced American man...somewhat sensitized economically by my divorce because frankly, it was quite costly to me; typically, divorce in America is not advantageous for the man in the vast majority of divorces.
So I think that I, in addition to most men, was somewhat blinded the first go- around. No street smarts. And the costs of failure is considerable. I do assume this gentleman in question was divorced, now maybe..hopefully a little smarter. Obviously his legal consul is protecting his ass the next go- around. Without knowing all the circumstances this prenup makes sense. I find the prenup conditions quite generous. I do not know what you people are thinking about that. Still, it is not me.
When I first visited Jing in Shenyang, the Fushun agency manager & I had a "getting to know you" talk. Basically, she was of the opinion that, yes, a lot of American men are players, even going into detail about a few of her clients mis- adventures. Not good news coming from a source who I considered reliable. She gave the Australians, the Brits, and the rest of the European men were given high marks.
I do not think I would want to contest generalities. That would be problematic since my own opinion is limited to myself. Only myself.
My first wife & I lived together for 4 years before marriage. She didn't even cut a fart the whole time. Jing & I were married in my first visit, two weeks of pure happiness.
So, maybe I am not the smart man after all. The thing is I did not go into my China relationship with all my American idiosyncrasies intact. Stupid arrogance be that. Cross cultural relationships dictate a lot of patience. A lot of understanding. A lot open discussions about what is China, because right now, all things in America are predicated by her China mindset. Jing does not understand but she is like a dried out sponge right now, taking in all this mental nourishment. She wants to learn. I appreciate her tremendous effort in all this.
I am patient. One thing the curious should remember is that I have never raised my voice with Jing. Ever. I am forthright in how I go about my marriage. Frankly, there is a lot of things Jing just not know or understand. In time she will be fine.
I am an older American man. I am probably somewhat set in a lot of ways I can not or will not imagine. I just do what I want, when I want, where I want. I probably can be cast as "atypical".
I do not have a high opinion of the American male. But I also understand that the women in America are very unforgiving with their selfishness of being. In addition to the elevated divorce rate, how many couples actually stay married despite their lack of general well being. Maybe the real question posed should be, "what is the percentage rate of successful & happy married couples"? There probably would not be any requirements for a prenup then. So I will let go this conversation with that.
