On a light hearted note...I just got an email inviting me to let the Forum know how I am going, de dah, de dah, de dah.
On the subject of split Fora (yes it is correct spelling), we should understand that there is an absolute mountain of very good info. now contained within the various categories in the Forum. Newbies only need to browse for half an hour or so to find answers for many of the questions facing those about to leap into the "China Adventure"
Maybe this mountain of fact absolves newbies from asking questions or contributing
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But why did a few of us find it necessary to keep in touch and continue to contribute ?? compared to those who came, participated and then disappeared
What are we lacking to stimulate guys to keep asking/posting/updating ??
1) The current economic climate globally has drastically reduced the number of Men who can afford to consider a Chinese (or Foreign) partner.
2) The "alternative" sites reek of scams, deception etc and have begun to give the whole "Chinese Bride" experience the same negatives tha finally wrecked the "Russian Bride" model...Men are much more cautious now.
3) Because only a few of us actively participate in the Forum, it begins to have the perceived flavour of an "old boys club" or a closed clique....this scares a lot of guys away.
4) We dont seem to have as many interesting/thought provoking experiences to share these days, and that is not surprising because the "core" members have met/married and are mostly now living normal, happy married lives. Compare this to 3 years ago when I joined where maybe 15 or 20 guys were deep into "prospecting" and there were many stories being posted for info. and sharing.
What do we do
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* Those of us remaining have got to make up our minds to create some posts from within our own experiences that are stimulating, interesting and would generate a climate that encourages newbies to participate.
* Moderators have got to stir up posts, I believe the Mods must do more than just watch for bad stuff. Mods are our Management Team....git 'er done !!!
* There is still too much flavour that this is an American dominated site...dispel that myth !!!
* There is a view in the "outside World" that we are a bunch of elitist, unfriendly people....that is what I hear as feedback from my social circle. A lot of these folk have lookedand been disappointed with our "parochial" attitudes.....we have got to stop bickering over trivia.
Just a few points, we must do something, and quick or so much good work will go down the tube
David