My Gripe Box

[Pineau]

Ok another lady friend in China asking for my advice but I cant help her this time. Her husband fights with her constantly but refuses to let her divorce. I have known her for a couple of years and her marriage is hot and cold from day to day. She often leaves him and stays in a hotel or with her parents. The problem is that she paid for the house where they live but he wants the house ( if he agrees to the divorce). I know what to do if this was America but china laws are so different and often flexible. I cant advise her what to do. Most Chinese men have no feelings of responsibility! I am not asking for help. I just want to bitch about it.

You are welcome to use this thread for you own gripes.

[Pineau]

There is some weird things going on across the courtyard. There is this kid that screams and cries at all hours of the day and night. At first I thought he was really sick, then maybe the parents were torturing him. I mean it is really unnerving. I thought about calling child services then realized I am in China. duh... Well its been going on ever since they moved in so I was out on the patio to see if I could determine what was going on.  The kid is 2 or 3 years old and starts screaming inside the house but stops when his dad holds him and takes him outside on the patio. When he goes back into the house, in just a little while he will start screaming again. Got the picture?

Well Fiona reminded me that a man died in that house  !!!  Anyone that rents that place only stays about a month or two then abandons it. There was even performed a House Exorcism Ritual with smoke, ringing bells and loud noises that went on for days to drive his spirit away. I guess the dead guy just don't want to leave.

bizarre to say the least.

[shaun]

Maybe they should try to evict the dead man. 

[Pineau]

TO THE MODS>

Do you think it is feasible for the "forum" to create an anonymous ID and log on so members can come here and bitch without fear that there will be repercussions.

Also restrict the use of "anonymous" to REGISTERED members with completed profiles to keep the world from posting here.

[shaun]

    Gee... Gerry...  Did my comment piss you off that much? 

I'm not a MOD but I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night!

I think what you are asking is dangerous territory.  It could be abused so much.  I know the mods would be the only ones to know but it sure could get ugly around here real quick.

[Pineau]

Your probably right but I was trying to find a way to vent at he the USCIS, the Chinese government and the likes without them finding out who did it.
I don't know what information the mods are privy to but if they know who is being an ass they can quietly issue warnings without anyone knowing. It would certainly liven up the forum which I think has been almost asleep for a while.

[Arnold]

Your probably right but I was trying to find a way to vent at he the USCIS, the Chinese government and the likes without them finding out who did it.

Gerry, I also have had many times a good reason to blow my top with the USCIS and especially lately with Qing's brother's Visa being denied twice to come andf visit us. I do post steamed thoughts of mine on other places and all I get back is.... blank spot where my Post should have been. So I gave up, nobody want to listen and you can not speak your mind.. even though this is a "Free" country supposely. What I recommend, is take the Dryer Duct hose off.. and "Vent" through there    ..... it works!

Regarding your request, Martin must do a Poll/Vote on this for all of the Mods.. but I also see not much chance for it to pass.

[shaun]

I like Arnold's idea about the vent tube.  When I need to yell I either go out into the woods or use my pillow.   Tried sticking my head into the lake and yell one.  It was great until the second thought.    Always remove your head from the water before you go for the second yell. 

[Vince G]

I don't know if they can do it here (and I mentioned this long time ago) there can be a folder/trend that you have to request (the admin) to get into. Had this on another forum years ago. A place where you could say, do, post anything out of the eyes of some that get offended.

 

[David E]

Hey guys...

Just be a bit careful here.

If we create any such place where people can anonymously have a serious gripe, it is likely that a LOT of bad stuff is going to get said about Governments, Agencies (and other people)

Whether we like it or not, a lot of effort is being put in to detect subversive and seditious elements within our society.

Whilst individuals MAY, repeat May not be identified, it is likely that the the Forum itself could well be classed as a place that is suspicious.

I am sure that we dont want this...well I dont anyway.

If you have a need to speak very bad stuff...then sit down and write yourself an email and get it off your chest...better still, get into Politics, get elected President and fix it...other than that...suck it down and   get on with life best you can !!!

Just my 2 cents worth.

[Pineau]

Can we restrict the use of the forum to certified members?   So if your not a real person you cant just log in and start browsing.  Eliminate the guest user and the hidden user.

Tighten the membership requirements a little. Like require a completed profile and proof of identity and location.
Right now the forum is an open door and anyone with an internet connection can go browsing.  adolescence boys, old girl friends, ex-wives, attorneys, stalkers, potential employers, your grand mother and governments can access a lot of personal data and inflammatory remarks.

Some of the things I have said about u. s. c. i. s.  Could have got my application moved to the bottom of the queue or made it disappear altogether. (and probably did.  )  But I needed to say them. not just to vent but to inform the next guy of the potential problems that may occur in the immigration process. If I cant do that then whats the point of me posting at all? But sometime I just don't always feel safe here or comfortable with some of the things I have said.

The old members may remember my original post "recover from an affair"  You may be wondering where it went. Well I removed it a while back because it contained too much personal, intimate, and financial data that was open to the public.

To my point, it is 11:00 am in China and 9:00Pm back home. I just checked the forum online status.  That's 15 people right now browsing through some 70,000 forum posts on 1,500 topics. We know only 3 of them to be registered users and can be trusted. ( well maybe only two, but I am a special case)  .
 Guests: 12
 Hidden: 0
 Users: 3
 Users Online:
 Pineau
 Vxxx
 kixxx

Here is a suggestion. Partition the forum so that certain sections like newbies corner are open to the public but the remainder of the posts are restricted to registered and CERTIFIED users. 

Just my 3 cents worth.

[Willy The Londoner]

My own feelings is that there should be no guests and no hidden viewers.  Before they can see members details they should have posted first.

Willy

[RobertBfrom aust]

Gerry and Willy , I have brought up this several times , as I have seen more than 17 visitors on here at times , obviously gleaning information for their own benefit , with not even a thankyou , regards Robert .

[David E]

Yep...If you want to take advantage of the mountain of knowlege and information here....then join up.

[shaun]

I don't think the visitors is an accurate count.  It seems to me that I remember Martin and Irish saying that they needed to delete a few of them to clean it up.