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Offline David E

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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #60 on: May 29, 2012, 09:22:14 pm »
Her new business has her dealing mainly with ladies, but some men have expressed interest in her music teaching. But if an unmarried or even married male friend/student/ or teacher keeps asking her out for a dinner (just the two of them)..... comes to a point were good weather comments need an umbrella.

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No way could I disagree with this situation.

If my wife was asked to dinner by a male friend, I would expect that she sought my endorsement BEFORE the event. But my point is that for her to go to dinner (or some such other one-on-one meeting) without my knowlege would be getting a bit close to the bone for my liking.

However...if she DID go out with another Man in secret I personally, repeat personally would consider our marriage at serious risk when I finally found out.

If, for instance , your wife discussed with you that she wanted to meet a prospective music client for dinner because it could be good for her Businesss, then maybe you would look at it in a different light ?????
If my wife told me shewas going to dinner with a male friend...just for the fun of it...I would likely explode !!!!! as I am sure most husbands would...rightly so.

There must be a boundary as you say...to have male friends as partof an overall social circle does not seem bad to me, to go into private one-on-one situations with other Men...seems VERY bad to me.

What got up my nose was the sweeping statement from a first time poster that the marriage under discussion by Pineau was in trouble because the wife had male friends...even though we dont know if the husband was an adulterer, a wife beater or just an opportunist looking for a way to hang on to his wife's home for himself !!!!

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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #61 on: May 29, 2012, 09:42:54 pm »
1. I am well aware of that. Already covered under "morale". You are suggesting she had a need (implying to put blame on the husband as well), rather than a desire (like a horny animal). What authority are you on matters like this? You might be less judgemental on people who share their misfortunes.

2. Yep, never marry so no wife will ever do you wrong.

3. We are talking about "civilised people", in a "civilised" society. Not discussing monkeys.

1) I am as much an authority on these matters as any person who has lived a full life with all it's ups and downs. My comments are not judgemental, they are observations made from My own unique   
    experiences which of course are different from yours or anybody else's. Yes she had a need, I cant define what this need was all about, dont have enough info. dont need it. But sure, she had a need and it
    happened. Need, desire, horny, lonely, unfulfilled, drunk, stupid ...put any label on it that you choose you cant change the outcome. To imply that anything I said assumed any level of blame on either party
    is a pure wild assumption on your part. There is NO blame in these situations....just facts..

2) Wrong....marry if you choose and enjoy every wonderful moment......only dont expect that nothing bad can happen...and when it does...you dont die, you dust off, get up and carry on with life...a bit wiser   
    maybe...but nil desperandum.

3) Civilised...civilised.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!..you have the nerve to label modern humans as civilised.  Mate, the monkeys have got it over us every time in this department.

I read the posts since I "left" and in my defence decided to respond to some. Starting with this one:

Item 3 totally invalidates my statement. Undermines any basis for ongoing discussion, and does come across as a personal attack ("you have the nerve...").

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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #62 on: May 29, 2012, 09:47:31 pm »
If, for instance , your wife discussed with you that she wanted to meet a prospective music client for dinner because it could be good for her Businesss, then maybe you would look at it in a different light ?????

Hopefully not candle light!  ???

David this situation is different because how can they be friends if they are just metting, as you said - prospective client.
« Last Edit: May 29, 2012, 09:52:25 pm by Rhonald »
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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #63 on: May 29, 2012, 09:48:25 pm »
I am reading this thread and want to know ZOMBIE why??? are you being so aggressive from the very start?

You are telling 'us' something and then trying too (notice I said TRYING) to verbally attack anyone that types something..

If you dont like the info anyone gives why dont you just p..s off instead of attacking those giving the info

To the Mods and others...Sorry for the outburst but this guy has done nothing but (in my eyes) verbally attack other brothers

This post is an attack on me, nothing less ("... why don't you just piss off.. ". Show me where I attacked anyone???

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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #64 on: May 29, 2012, 09:50:12 pm »


3) Civilised...civilised.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!..you have the nerve to label modern humans as civilised.  Mate, the monkeys have got it over us every time in this department.


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Come on zombie there is no way this can be called a personal attack if the whole sentence is taken in context :(

Does it mean then because he called you '"Mate'" that you are BEST FRIENDS???
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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #65 on: May 29, 2012, 09:58:15 pm »
yyou decided that John 1964 was stupid

Next you consider that DAVID E talked like an idiot (but not calling him an idiot ) !!!!!!

And I would have put the posting up for you to reread, if you had not deleted them!!!
Also to David E "What authority are you on matters like this?" you wrote
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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #66 on: May 29, 2012, 10:05:08 pm »
Well since the original posts have been removed from the order they were responded in, it is hard to show the route of deterioration.

I would say that Zombie's first two posts were strong but not directed at anyone - except that I could see Gerry taking exception to the problem being Foreign friends.

But from what I remember and sorry John1964 ( I really enjoy your story and contribution here) but your post asked him a direct question that was not related to Zombie's previous post. Zombie replied badly in calling you stupid which for a newbee poster was wrong. But from all the capitalising and giff images, it was like you were shouting at him.

And after this it went down hill in a hurry.
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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #67 on: May 29, 2012, 10:07:34 pm »
Come on Rhonald, we are westerners here, we KNOW the using cap locks does not mean we are shouting!!!
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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #68 on: May 29, 2012, 10:14:48 pm »
Well I deleted Zombie's last post because he reverted to name calling. Give a man a chance to defend him self - gladly, but mud slinging aint defending. Use logic to defend youself as I can see David does have some holes in his defense. But with a diatribe of insults, I begin to believe that I was wrong in my assumption about you Zombie.
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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #69 on: May 29, 2012, 10:17:04 pm »
Sorry if my post offended you, but won't be posting again. I felt that DavidE was attacking me and being judgemental.

I removed all other posts, everybody happy :)

Would the former member be the type to submit an apology? If he has become more devious than YES

But I also have a strong feeling that it could have been someone new.

Certainly I would submit an apology, if warranted. In fact my first word in the quoted post was "Sorry...".

But I don't belong here. I do not engage in assumtions or cheap chit-chat. This looks like a private club rather than a public forum.

Yes, I do take offense to some of DavidE's posts.

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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #70 on: May 29, 2012, 10:19:21 pm »
Just don't name call as it does not point to what you take offense to. As to private - I have had many rebuttals to my viewpoint on YouTube and it seems insult is the only seasoning they know to pepper your argument with. SO this site is not private but is moderated. For sure long time members will be given the benefit of the doubt.
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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #71 on: May 29, 2012, 10:23:01 pm »
Now I deleted Rob's post - in his defense - Zombies - Rob your comment was tit for tat.
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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #72 on: May 29, 2012, 10:23:58 pm »
Now I deleted Rob's post - in his defense - Zombies - Rob your comment was tit for tat.

yes I agree and also childish.. however in my defense it seems like we are dealing with a child!!
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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #73 on: May 29, 2012, 10:29:30 pm »
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Certainly I would submit an apology, if warranted. In fact my first word in the quoted post was "Sorry...".

But I don't belong here. I do not engage in assumtions or cheap chit-chat. This looks like a private club rather than a public forum.

Yes, I do take offense to some of DavidE's posts.

Why do you say that you do not belong here?  Why not tell us a little about yourself.  Are you with a Chinese woman?  Dating?  Married?  None of the above?  We know nothing about you.  Please dont accuse us of being a private club..all are welcome, but this is a pretty specific forum, with the main topic being dating and or marrying a Chinese woman.  Are you doing either?

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Re: My Gripe Box
« Reply #74 on: May 29, 2012, 10:32:59 pm »
ok...zombie I apologise for carrying on in such a manner to a newbie..

Givee us a little bit of info about yourself and questions raised by martin
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