Vincent. My advice to you is to beg, borrow (not steal, ha ha!) enough money to go to Changsha. You obviously have the China bug. How do I know? I had it too. You think you are talking to a woman. You are talking to a translator (i.e. a very good actress) from the Changsha Love Bridge Agency. How do I know? I did it too.
Now I am happily married to a beautiful woman, living in China, with our first baby due in December.
The only way I could do this is to go to Changsha, get burned, find another agency, find a real woman, spend real time with her, and stick two fingers up at any agency who wants to screw another Westerner.
It's an empty feeling getting burned at home. You feel like giving up before you've ever really experienced anything. But getting burned in China only makes you stronger. Once you pick yourself up off the floor, you realize that, hey, you actually did it, you got on a plane to come all this way. This is an adventure. They didn't beat you.
But, and its a big but, if you can't fly, don't try. Put this idea on hold until you can afford it.