It'd a few years now since I was home licking my wounds after several trips to China to meet Women who I found on CHNLove and such....and came back home shattered and disillusioned and quite frankly I felt totally disgusted with the whole rigmarole of lies and deception perpetrated on me by these Agencies. None of the Women I met were remotely like their photos and despite many, many EMF's (that cost me an arm and a leg) most of them did not know anything about me...it was all a bloody great scam.
After I got some hard but good advice here...you all know the story...web-cam, QQ etc etc etc I got the courage and support from the "old-timers" here to have another try and do it the right and safe way.
When I first posted here, I got some very tough advice, I did feel like a pratt for not thinking it through myself and I guess, like many of the newbies here I was already "in love" with these wonderful, beautiful Women and could not really believe that someone could deceive me so badly...like most of us, my hormones got well ahead of my brain !!!!
It's not much fun to be told how stupid we have been...whether this message comes like a blast from a .45, or whether it is delivered in dulcet tones matters little....as they say "dont shoot the messenger " !!!
It is because the old-timers know the ropes, have done the journey and have finally won (or lost, or drawn) that the advice coming thru to newbies is often short, sharp......and accurate.
If that puts people off...it is a pity because it is kindly meant to save Men a lot of pain, emotionally as well as financially.
Yes, we are a clique....a clique of Men who have done the hard yards...together......and shared so much. That clique does never exclude anyone new from seeking help, it does not deliberately shut out newbies and it never personally ridicules anyone. We have continued to keep in touch here because we have shared something unique together . When nobody wants advice, then we can still keep up ,our personal banter...but never let it be said that we shun outsiders, or abuse them, or whatever. The real problem is that most newbies who come here are in trouble...but they dont quite know why....sometimes the advice which us "oldies" can see as completely obvious comes as a very hard, cold message....it's a very hard cold World out there, especially with crooked, scamming Agencies AND Women.....it is best to get advice to jump, if jumping saves a lot of heartache...what is the point of trying to sugar-coat it...the end game is still the same.
If you do it right, persevere, listen and act on advice you CAN win your Chinese Princess...I and many of the old-timers did just that and I for one hope that in some small way I can help somebody else get what I have got...because it is a life changing experience....for the better.