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Little Emperors
Neil:
My wife told me that her son needs a father to discipline and teach him. We always refer to him as our son, not her son (though, if he is being bad, he is 'her' son). He's still young - 7, so he's not too annoying yet. My wife has a hard time getting him to do homework or pay attention sometimes, but he is a lot like I was at that age. He's very imaginative and a little quiet. He wears glasses, and my wife always scolds him for sitting too close to the tv or computer, but I let it slide - he just can't see good enough. When he comes to Canada, we can get him to a real eye doctor.
I worry about his first few years in Canada. My parents divorced when I was 9, and we moved around a lot. It was not good for my social skills. Our stepfather was very overbearing and strict, but to this day, I love him, respect him, and consider him more of a father to me than my real father ever was. I hope I can be as good a father as he was. My daughters turned out real good, so I think I'll do fine with a stepson.
The language barrier will be the biggest hurdle. I wish we were all together now, so I could really get down to teaching them English properly.
So, no little emperor yet. We'll see.
Willy The Londoner:
My parents were together until they were parted by the death of one of them. This built my character to what it is today.
I long, long ago decided that it was far more fun for a man to be single and available than to be tied to one woman and maybe later divorce. Most people I know have been divorced at least once but me never so far and I hope I never will be.
I look to my parents experience of staying together till one of you dies. But then I am closer to that than most on here.:-X
Willy
djal:
"My wife told me that her son needs a father to discipline and teach him. We always refer to him as our son, not her son (though, if he is being bad, he is 'her' son). He's still young - 7, so he's not too annoying yet. My wife has a hard time getting him to do homework or pay attention sometimes, but he is a lot like I was at that age...
The language barrier will be the biggest hurdle. I wish we were all together now, so I could really get down to teaching them English properly.
So, no little emperor yet. We'll see."
Neil, your situation is very similar to mine. My GF has a son who is 7 years old. We plan to get married in a few months and then it's the visa application. He speaks mandarin and japanese since he lives with his mother in Tokyo. I hope he will adapt well to Canada and I hope he will have no problem learning english. And yes she told me alsothat he needs a father to teach him and discipline him... to be a mentor in a way. I'm 51 and it worries me a bit to have that role again. My daughter is now 18 and at university. I have to start all over with a young kid... he is ok though. I hope I will do well.
Arnold:
--- Quote from: djal on October 21, 2012, 09:28:55 pm ---I'm 51 and it worries me a bit to have that role again.
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Now djal, 51 is still young.. just ask your Girl. I'm 59 going on 60 soon and having a 11 yr. old is actually a challence I welcome with my wife's help of course. Keeps us young ourselves... wouldn't you say so? Can't put that all on the wife's you know.
David K:
--- Quote from: Pineau on October 21, 2012, 07:58:20 pm --- What I asked Jing many times was if she could not be a stern parent then release control of the boy to me. In a few years I would give her back a good son, well mannered and a young adult.. But she would not have any part of it. She was afraid that I would be too tough on him. .... I think up until the early teens a boy can be fixed but you need to convince her to step aside so you can do your job.
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For another POV try
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/01/28/AR2006012800062_pf.html
:)
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