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Little Emperors
Pineau:
Thanks for the link and suggestion but....I would not go as the tough love programs mentioned in the article . My methods are more firmness and regulations with a dose of explanation of why there are rules and that you really love them even though your being an asshole at the moment.
I have 5 kids of my own and have raised two daughter that belonged to my ex from her first marriage. That's a total of 7 kids that were placed in my charge. It was not easy but they are all , each and every one, productive members of society. And not one of them ever threatened me or their mother and were never taken away in handcuffs. I know how to raise kids and do it right but I must have a chance and support from the rest of the family.
Without Jing's over protection and grandparent interference her son would have been in his second year of college now. But instead he is working as a delivery boy for a pizza hut and only one strike away from a long prison sentence.
David K:
--- Quote from: Pineau on October 22, 2012, 03:34:44 am ---Thanks for the link and suggestion but....I would not go as the tough love programs mentioned in the article .
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SNAP: I have raised 4 before I met my "Chinese Takeaway", much of it as a single parent....
One clung like glue to his mother, totaled 6 cars and accumulated thousands in traffic fines..
So we are of a mind about discipline and consequences...
Presently my lovely wifes son (coming on 22 ) still thinks he is in China and has a servant called mother..
This is changing, but it takes effort and planning on my part... with, crucially, support from my wife
who also can't find it easy :)
Peace
David K
ron:
Tough love does work I have done it with my daughter and son as long as your wife will not go against you and the family stays out of it and not undermine your work.Otherwise it will be you fighting a losing battle.But I am sure you are already aware of all this
Ron
David K:
This from a teacher: Kind of relevant to little emperors too.....
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Northland (New Zealand) College Principal John Tepene has offered the following words from an NZ judge who regularly deals with youth.
"Always we hear the cry from teenagers, 'What can we do, where can we go?'
My answer to this:
Go home, mow the lawn, wash the windows, learn to cook, build a raft, get a job, visit the sick, study your lessons and after you've finished, read a book.
Your town does not owe you recreational facilities and your parents do not owe you fun.
The world does not owe you a living, you owe the world something.
You owe it your time, energy and talent so that no one will be at war, in sickness and lonely again.
In other words grow up, stop being a cry baby, get out of your dream world and develop a backbone not a wishbone.
Start behaving like a responsible person. You are important and you are needed.
It's too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday.
Someday is now and that somebody is you !"
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Amen to that :)
Arnold:
..... but Mr. Judge! That sounds like "Work"... I don't even make my own Bed! Mommy does that, she wont let me do anything!
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