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Little Emperors

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Arnold:

--- Quote from: maxx on October 17, 2012, 08:24:22 pm ---Arnold I have to disagree my friend.Don't ever play into there childish games.They have no idea what is best for them.Your best bet is to lay down the law.Then show him what he looses if he doesn't follow the laws.And if he slips follow threw.By shipping him back to China.For a couple of months.
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Maxx, he will not play any games with me and I do not allow him to do it to his Mother either. He will know soon what is best for him and where he stands in this Household.. #3 and never anything else. He's very smart for his age, but if he only use it in a more constructive way.. instead trying to use his Mom for his sole purpose. I'll have him standing straight.. mind and soul in a year or he'll see the wrath of a German and that isn't pretty.

David K:
I wrote in another thread ( http://www.chnromance.com/index.php/topic,3591.msg61469.html#msg61469 )
about the little prince in residence here (NZ), and the difficulties it generates.
What I have found helpful is to distinguish between the behaviour (which is unacceptable) and the desire
of the princeling to be accepted and to belong ( which is what we all want).
I think Maxx is right - a testosterone fired confrontation serves only to make the situation worse..
the old bull and the young bull both eyeballing each other pawing the paddock, so to speak..

Sometimes there's a deeper issue.. a thing called the Oedipus complex .. so named after a
mythological greek dude who became enamoured of his mother and arranged to have his father
dispatched, so he could have mother all to himself... ring any bells???
In any event, I have found that when I loose my sense of humour in any situation, I am close
to loosing the plot and acting destructively.

So what I do is caricature the situation - a little play acting with facial expressions and lots of
body language (so lack of english cannot be used as an excuse ( wo bu mingbai)).
5 minutes of hamming it up is usually enough to get everybody laughing, and the reset button
has thus been pressed.
"A soft answer turneth away wrath" I think the good book says

David K:
PS:  Seems the "little emperor" virus has gone global...
But I agree the Chinese version is more virulent than most

:(

Arnold:
"A soft answer turneth away wrath" I think the good book says

David, believe me.. having had to deal with seven Step-children and 19 Grand-children through my first marriage.. I've learned quite a bit how to and when? This is a challenge of the different kind, but I/We will prevail. Boy, this sounds like a battle cry... I hope it does go the more quiet/peaceful route of course.  Actually, I only (don't tell anybody) know this one route and the "Wrath" is only a breeze in the distance. I do blow some "Hot" air ones in a while, to get my point across!

Jason B:
Just to throw one out there as I have no idea about any of this.  Maybe a "threat" would be toe the line or go live with your father in China? Seems to me from the stories I have read that the kid is dumped on the mother or grandparents as the father does not want much to do with the kid.  Maybe an eye opener for them. Just my 2c.

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