Well Fellas, I've not been on a train in China during Chinese New Year.
I've been on the metro in Guangzhou during rush hour, and that was pretty crowded and unpleasant for this westerner.
But please, think back to when you were courting your lady. What if it was your only chance to meet her family, before she came back to your country with you? Wouldn't you do it, even if it was unpleasant, to show your love for her and to meet your family? This is her traditional time to go visit them. I suggested to go some other time. But she said no, then she would have to use more vacation, and her family would not have time for us, because they'd be working.
My Ivy likes to talk to her sister once a month or so on the phone. Visit once a year or so. She's not close to her brother. She never felt love from her parents or brother, and her dad died two years ago.
They are not educated, don't speak English, and don't seem to want to leave China. If I don't go and meet them now, I may never know her family. So, even if it is a terrible travel experience, I will do it to meet her family.
Anyway, in one week, she will have her visa interview.
I'm reading the tips from our lawyer, and also Robert's past posts on the matter. (thanks)
Ivy has her condo up for sale, and one guy wants to buy it. Visa interview is coming soon. Then, she will sell her piano, "apply" to resign from her job, (I don't understand that...) and generally wrap things up in China. There is a small chance that she will be able to move here sooner than early March, but I will leave those arrangements up to her.
Her dad died 3 years ago, so this trip to her hometown in Hubei is also partly for that. It is a hometown tradition to visit the grave after 3 years.
Thanks for your support, and even your constructive skepticism.
By the way Robert: Cindy emailed me and asked for a character reference for you. I told her you're only slightly shady. (kidding!) She seems like a great woman to me. I hope you have an equally great man for her.