We just had a nice little fight.
I'll stick my neck out here, and risk Willy's wrath.
I'm a very open person. Some would say "too open." I share my days with Ivy, down to the detail. She likes it. Yet, I always have to pry the same information out of her. We both like it, because it makes us feel close, despite the distance.
Once or twice, I asked her about it.
"You like it when I share my life with you, right?" > "Right."
"So why don't you share yours with me, unless I ask?" > "I don't know. It seems nothing interesting happened."
Then I told her about The Golden Rule. She agreed.
Fast forward several months. No change. I decided I would not just tell her about my day any more, unless she asked. Saturday, I asked her about her day, as usual. She told me. Then silence. She felt uncomfortable, but didn't tell me so, and didn't know why.
Then, yesterday, she realized why, and asked me about my weekend. I was happy for that, as it showed she cares. I told her I didn't tell her originally, because she didn't ask, and I was waiting for her reaction.
Wooo, she hit the roof. Said I don't trust her and I'm doing tricky things. Now, she won't know if something is really wrong, or if I'm just being tricky. She asked why I didn't just tell her. I reminded her that we did talk about it, at least twice before, with no change.
She said I should love her without trying to change her, and that if I don't like something, I should just tell her, rather than do tricky things. She asked whether I want to have a soul mate that I don't trust. Wow.
I told her I was not trying to trick her, just learn about her in a different way.
Finally two days later, we made up. (just minutes ago)
I asked her please don't blow up little silly things into huge issues. We have to let go of those little things if we're to succeed, long-term. She said she didn't consider it little, but OK, she will try.
I agreed to try not to experiment on her.
Then, her boss swooped by and picked her up for lunch. Apparently, she cannot say no. I can't understand that.