To get rid of credits on chnlove.com, I asked my favorite lady, who says she speaks 'good' English, to set up a Love Call. She was happy to do this, and we just finished our conversation. She needs work, but she can understand me (even though I talk too fast), and I can understand her (even though I'm an intolerant American, my words, not anyone else's, who can't understand anyone who doesn't speak 'perfect' English). I made off hand remarks about things that she wrote in EMFs, and she recognized what I was talking about, so I believe it was the same person from the messages... for example, she talked about being away from home with her parents for the holiday, and playing Mahjong with them, and that she didn't do well. I said, during the conversation, that I hope you do better today in Mahjong and she laughed and seemed genuinely surprised I read, and remembered, her letter. In the end, we exchanged phone numbers and we exchanged texts and QQ numbers. Now I have to set up my damn webcam...
Anyway, some questions:
1) Are all Chinese women jealous types? She asked me more than once if I'm talking to other ladies on chnlove.com. I told her the truth, that there are 2 others, she is my favorite. She asked if I would stop talking to the others and I said yes. I WILL do what I said I would do. I only have 3 credits left, and I wasn't planning on buying more anyway. I will mention that I am only interested in ladies 40+ who were divorced with no children, so I assume (we haven't discussed her marriage yet) she was cheated on like many Chinese wives seem to be.
2) She giggled a LOT. I'm a funny guy, but not that funny. She did tell me that my pronunciations were funny (I tried to say a few things I learned in Chinese... the only one I got right was ni hao ma... pinyin is tough!!). Do most Chinese women giggle a lot, or am I funnier than even I believe?
3) She asked about what I like to be called. I told her Pat, Patrick, I don't care. So she said my new Chinese name was Bao Be (that's how it sounded). She wouldn't tell me what it meant. Can someone help me out here?
4) While we talked a little on several subjects, she seemed to be very interested in me coming to visit her in China. When I said I didn't know how long it takes to get a visa taken care of, or that I wouldn't be able to afford it until July, she seemed genuinely upset. I really didnt see things going so fast, considering that I thought Chinese women were conservative and slow moving. We've exchanged 7 emails, 3 from her and 4 from me, plus this talk. Is this normal?
5) Finally, she says she had a friend that met a man from Australia and is now living with him there. How does this affect the whole situation?
The whole thing was surreal, and I didn't know how to take it. She asked a lot of questions and was positively responsive to my questions. She controlled the conversation for the most part. She seemed disappointed that I had to end the call because I knew I was getting close to the end of my credits, but she was happy to exchange cell #s and responded quickly to my text and gave me her QQ. I didn't ask her about facial hair or shaving yet... maybe I should have, that could have been the clincher
She lives in Shenzhen, and I would like to talk with her more on QQ and through text/phone calls before I meet her in person. Is juanjuan (her name is JuanLi, she likes to be called juanjuan, which I need to practice saying so I say it correctly...) for real, or is this just a scam? She seems real enough, but I'm basically a virgin here.
Oh, yeah, how long DOES it take to get a tourist visa?
I would like your thoughts, and also is this the right place to post, or would another forum be better?
