Here are my impressions of my trip!
My experience going to china... and meeting, and meeting Hong in person for the first time.
As a friend dropped me off at the Reno airport...I was still hours or even days away from comprehending exactly what, and why I had reached this point in my life... fleeing to a new strange land seeking what should be basic human relations 101 at home. It is true for most men after having survived bitter relationship break-ups...to never walk in those well worn footprints again! For those of us that never achieved the kind of long lasting meaningful relationship we thought we were destined to have...well, we continue to look... much as a salmon's upstream journey.
Two things I have learned here. First is that Hong is exactly who she has been for me for almost two years now. On her part, she has felt our union had been written in stone... long ago, and that our actual meeting face to face was with the reality I had actually arrived as I promised. Second thing, I hate most of the Chinese food with a passion, taste like shit to me or there’s no taste at all....and have tighten my belt a notch or two in 9 days. Tonight I cooked Hong an American style beef stew, with garlic bread, or whatever those round thick pancakes they sell here everywhere? For me? A happy belly finally, and Hong loved it has she ate like a starving sailor. Her 110 frame can easily put away twice what I can, but then she is very hyper and newer stops! One great thing about Hong? She likes beer as much as myself!
Having logged many miles already by bus and train in and out of a variety of cities...I have found every where the people are friendly and very-out going to help. Hong besides being a camera whore as I call her...she very social and will strike up an conversation with anyone... which always having them asking about the tall whitey with her. Did I fail to mention we were married after 12 hours of our airport meeting? Anyway, some want to know how this could happen, and others want to know more for themselves perhaps. The men label me as “a good man”. Only did I see another Caucasian twice, first a Pol at Wuhan, and then A Czechoslovakian at Wudang mountain. As to how members on the forum will claim the Chinese women will be attracted to you and seek conversation with you or just a camera pose is very true! I have been a total rock star here! I have already held many beautiful women in picture posing (60 plus).... from young to old. And another thing! About 4 in 10 I find very desirable. Most are very fashionable in attire and extremely well groomed from head to high-heeled toes. These Chinese woman has put many western women to shame in those regards.
The reality of having married a Chinese woman came to full light when after only hours of having met Hong, I was sitting on the can doing my business when in she comes asking if I needed any help with anything! Haha Thank God I haven't required the squatter pit! And the public restrooms will gag you from the foul smell at 20 yards away. Our restroom at home in Weihai has a toilet, shower, washing machine combo. I still can't get used to the idea of wearing rubber shoes to the can or shower, not to mention...a wet toilet seat all the time. This china girl is completely open and natural with nudity with me, but will put on layers when approaching our windows on the 23rd floor over looking the sea! Speaking of which, our bldg is one of 8 on the sea in a new development. Nothing seems to be plumb and square and the workmanship is very poor by most standards. We are allowed to reside here yet the bldg isn't completed as of yet. There is no fire fighting equipment or fire/smoke detectors hooked up yet. However, the location and views are magnificent! Somewhat like a poorer rendition of Miami beach. The wallpaper which seems complex wide is a pattern with girly flowers suitable for a 10-12 year old's bedroom. Even Hong hates it. The kitchen counter-tops and gas range's heights are 4-5 inch below western standards and the range hood's corners is at Hong's eye height. I keep telling her... dumb-assed Chinese, this and that...she agrees as she has hit the corner with her head 4 times already.
One small issue with my trip here in china is: Hong has been leading me around and never leaves my side or holding on to me. Well, there was that one time on the sales tours one of her friends got us on to for free passage to weihai on the sleeper bus for 14 hours. Anyway, other women sensed I was single or unattached when Hong took a trip to shop for wedding candy to pass around, and a few girls cozy-ed up to me while on walking tour, and I found a lot of commonality with a very sweet girl that could speak limited English. I wonder where her father disappeared to? As far as Hong and I understanding the other...no big deal for the most part. She understands my mood and desires, hand and eye gestures go far. As I write she is explaining in detail about hooking my laptop to a big screen TV for a movie. I know this by her pointing and saying USB on computer. As in most things, I show her a little bit with my fingers as to what she is saying...and we just laugh.
Driving, or getting around in China is INSANE! Anything with a motor is fair game for streets, hwys, and freeways. Although there are lane markings and traffic lights, one way streets...they mean nothing! The ever present honking isn't about annoyance but a heads up and to be aware. And people walking in the streets and even in crosswalks are divided by speeding vehicles. How the hell I haven't been killed or party/ witness to a traffic killing I'll never know! How do the nicer cars here like a BMW even survive?
Hong will do everything for me if I let her. I find it easier to hide my dirty clothes than watching her spending endless hours washing and cleaning everything. She has even washed my baseball cap 3 times in just over a week! Not to mention me about three times a day! Haha Hong is graceful as well as very physically strong, but also strong headed. Just smile and put two fingers close together! hehehe
Today we went to the beach here...Hong can't swim and so it took some doing, and screaming on her part to get her all the way out to 3 feet of water. She soon developed a love for the turbulent waters much warmer than she ever believed it to be. When I saw her in the very feminine and cute swimsuit on the beach as she revealed herself...I knew very much why I am here in China! Afterwords, in the shower...Hong was determined to find every grain of sand from any nook or cranny it might be hiding in. I found it best to shower with her with a beer or two nearby.)))))
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