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JohnB:
Maxx, "David is probably one of the smartest guys I know.He has twice the education that I do.And he dam sure writes better
then I do.But that means nothing when it comes to something like this.it has nothing to do with brains or brawn.It is a simple
matter of a affair of the heart..."
I think maybe time for the engineer to forfeit hard dimensioning in favor of poetry，such as it is a delicate balance that requires some deep
thinking. As I recall when I met Jing...there will be a few difficult times because of the cross- cultural mis- understandings that will certainly
come into play. We have to be ready for it, identify it, & adjust accordingly. Maxx, I suppose your '24 hour rule' is very appropriate in
situations we fully do not understand as happens.
Willy The Londoner:
Sorry to hear that things are accelerating a little with your bank asking you to approve a card payment for the air fare.
That means that she has booked that without discussing it with you further first! If you had not authorised it then she would have more gripes to make, but if you did then again she could say you want to get rid of her! It is a 'no win scenario' mate.
I hope for your sake that this is just a storm in a teacup but I think that there is a strong possibility that there is something more to this than it being a case of answering a question with an unwanted answer.
I presume that everything went well whilst you were in Bali and this only occurred after your return? I hope that you were no eyeing up too many bikini clad women there?
With you being one of the more highly educated ones on this forum then you will know better than any if there could be any possible underlying reasons for this sudden wish to return to China?
I really hope that you can get this sorted pretty soon mate for both your sakes.
If she does go to China let her go with your blessings, tell her that the door will always be open on her return.
Willy
David E:
The muddy waters just cleared a little bit...
Ming is a comitted Buddhist, you may all recall in the early days we went through a crisis whereby her local Buddhist Priest told her that marriage to a Lao wei would be a disaster...(you may also recall that we had a few testy discussions vis-a-vis "unequally yoked" between me and some of the Bros on matters religious ;D ;D
Thanks to good advice...I hopped on a plane and fronted this Priest in Chengdu (Ming was there too !!) and after a long discussion, and after he had peered deply into my eyes and had a good look at my soul etc etc he declared that I was a good guy after all and she would have a lifetime happiness if we married. ( I hasten to add that the fat wad of RMB that I shoved into the collection box had absolutely nothing to do with his change of heart).
Problem solved..............
Ming is now studying at a local College...she wants to get a formaL Teaching qualification so that she can teach in Perth, so she needs a supplementary Aus qualification to update and validate her Chinese Degree.
In this College she has got herself mixed up with a bunch of Chinese Born Again Christians (Catholics to be precise), they have worked on her and more or less convinced her to convert...with the whole Baptism, Catechism, Dogma, Communion etc etc. While they were at it, they naturally expressed a wish that her husband should convert too............when she told them about my religious views, they promised her that I would spend eternity in horrible turmoil in the fires of hell and that she would have to be right there along side of me if she could not make me convert to Catholicism.
Knowing that I would never be party to this, she has convinced herself that the marriage must end. The "drowning woman" scenario was a test that the scaly BAC provided to prove to her that I was an evil, cursed, selfish Man who desperately needed salvation.
So now she is going to Chengdu, armed with intros to Catholic Groups there, where presumably she will complete her conversion.
Sadly, none of this will include me...I wont under any circumstances have anything to do with it.
So here it all ends...and I think SHE is the real loser.
Scottish_Robbie:
David I am so sorry to read this thread about you and ~Ming...As a non practicing catholic, I understand your thoughts these people are the worst. I hope it all gets sorted mate.....Would be a sad end!!
Robertt S:
--- Quote from: David E on November 08, 2013, 04:14:09 am ---The muddy waters just cleared a little bit...
Ming is a comitted Buddhist, you may all recall in the early days we went through a crisis whereby her local Buddhist Priest told her that marriage to a Lao wei would be a disaster...(you may also recall that we had a few testy discussions vis-a-vis "unequally yoked" between me and some of the Bros on matters religious ;D ;D
Thanks to good advice...I hopped on a plane and fronted this Priest in Chengdu (Ming was there too !!) and after a long discussion, and after he had peered deply into my eyes and had a good look at my soul etc etc he declared that I was a good guy after all and she would have a lifetime happiness if we married. ( I hasten to add that the fat wad of RMB that I shoved into the collection box had absolutely nothing to do with his change of heart).
Problem solved..............
Ming is now studying at a local College...she wants to get a formaL Teaching qualification so that she can teach in Perth, so she needs a supplementary Aus qualification to update and validate her Chinese Degree.
In this College she has got herself mixed up with a bunch of Chinese Born Again Christians (Catholics to be precise), they have worked on her and more or less convinced her to convert...with the whole Baptism, Catechism, Dogma, Communion etc etc. While they were at it, they naturally expressed a wish that her husband should convert too............when she told them about my religious views, they promised her that I would spend eternity in horrible turmoil in the fires of hell and that she would have to be right there along side of me if she could not make me convert to Catholicism.
Knowing that I would never be party to this, she has convinced herself that the marriage must end. The "drowning woman" scenario was a test that the scaly BAC provided to prove to her that I was an evil, cursed, selfish Man who desperately needed salvation.
So now she is going to Chengdu, armed with intros to Catholic Groups there, where presumably she will complete her conversion.
Sadly, none of this will include me...I wont under any circumstances have anything to do with it.
So here it all ends...and I think SHE is the real loser.
--- End quote ---
I hate it for you David, there is one thing that will happen sooner or later though. You can look forward to knowing that she will soon meet some of the born again hypocrites and then she will most likely understand that religion is just as corrupt as politics. Then perhaps maybe she will understand that she has " to borrow a term from my veteran grandfather" sh!t in her own mess kit! :o
Hope things work out for the best!
Robert
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