As many here have read in my past posts. My father-in-law is day to day and this has been going on for weeks now. My wife Hong and her mother have grieved for some time and I believe have come to terms with the inevitable. So today, I suggest when that time comes... mother go spend time at our "married" home in Weihai for a change, and to sort things out and find herself. What I got back from Hong was..."mother and I live with you my husband" YIKES! If I understand correctly, in the US I cannot sponsor a in-law and that Hong would have to become a citizen to sponsor her mother. Is that correct? How does one cleverly and tactfully circumvent this mountain? Mother does have two sons with families near to her. I understand and feel for the entire family, but...........