Chad, sorry you have to go through this awful situation.
I think the the base of your problem lies right here within....
In May 2011 I married a Chinese woman (Toni) in China and I first met her in March 2011.
I know we here encourage Members to go early after meeting them on the Internet (Chnlove or others) like 6 months or earlier. This can be great, but not to marry so soon. How could you really get to know your Wife in a couple of months? Love is blind and you Chad proved it ones more. Yes, I did marry on my first Trip (two days after I arrived), but... and here is the big but! Qing and I build a foundation in seven months of writing (honestly) that would easy equal 2-3 years of being together. By honest writing I mean, receiving answers to my questions, signs that only you would get from someone that really loves you (without asking for any such). This my friend is all written in my Blog tosee. I also see Qing is one in million, but this is what you have do on your end to be sure.. who is one the other end.
Too late now and of course I would not let such a Woman/Wife/Scam artist get the best of me. Stay away and save your sanity (keep her on the other side of that Great Wall) cut your loss's before it get even deeper into the heartship.