I agree about setting this aside. I once had a woman ask me after a couple of letters whether I was prepared to come and live with her and I answered as follows:
I think that the question of relocating is too far down the track for me at this stage. I don’t think that you will find anyone of any worth who would be willing to set aside their career, family and friends for a stranger. Think about it seriously. If I said that I was willing to relocate for someone who until a few weeks ago was a stranger to me, what would it say about my relationships to my work, colleagues, family and friends, and what would it say about me? Surely it would say that these things are worth very little to me, that I’m not someone you can rely and depend on, that I offer things that I am not really willing to give. My word is my bond. If I say something, I do it. If I tell you one day that I love you and I’m prepared to relocate for you, then you can believe it. But at this point in time, my dear, I'm not able to give you this commitment.
