Arnold,
You always seem to bring your wife into discussions relating to this sort of topic.
The fact that you could possibly have made every mistake in the book and still came out on top, does not detract away from you encouraging others to make the same judgments you made. To virtually pat Alex on the back on this occassion is irresponsible on your part and encourages others to follow suite. Everything wrote in my post above is using the commonsense and life experience I've gained over the many years of traveling and working overseas. ( many of those years based in China) Including finding and living with my own Chinese partner for 2 years. What is your encouragement to Alex based on Arnold?? ....LOOK!! ..It worked for me ??
You can get angry all you like Arnold, you asked Say's Who??, ......Say's simple and basic commonsense that's who, Your mindset is wrong!! Your basing your success on your failings, instead of your own pure luck..... and it was just that, ...Luck!!
I would think that one of the main aims of this forum, is to stop guys falling into these mind traps, where they fall in love with an image on a piece of paper and the image of a dream life, based on the written word. When in fact, it's just a form of courtship, where you should be spending the time getting to know each other through communicating ( by whatever means is available to you ), the more you know ....the more you can be sure in your own mind that this is the right or wrong person for me. Meeting the lady at some time along your journey will also confirm or not if this woman is the right one for you, and also hopefully your the right one for her. Fine, so now start talking about getting married if that's what you both want...
There are four main things that will get the guys on chnlove to where they want to be in the future, and they are using Commonsense, using Communication, using there life experience (wisdom) and Yes, ...also a good chunk of Luck. ( luck is party for the chemistry being right between you ) Rely on luck alone, and your just asking for trouble down the line.....
Arnold, you give a lot of good advice out, here and at CL . The only area where i can not agree with you, is in this area of quick time Internet falling in love. ...It worked for me, isn't a basis to encourage others. For them, it could be devastating, and a pot load of money down the drain!!
David......
PS : I know your going to be mad, and come back flaming, but I'm ready to counter any and all accusations you want to fire my way....