Maxx, Thanks for your input. I went back and re-read what I wrote. She was asking for a summer visit and I wasn't sure until I understood the financial implications in the divorce. Just that alone ruled a summer visit out. Then my doctor wanted to do surgery on my right hand July 10, I will not be able to carry anything for 3 weeks. I never promised a summer visit, I would have liked to, I wish I could go today.
Nothing would be more fun to me than to go recover from surgery in China. But, Chong already said it, she works 12 hours a day in the restaurant she owns. She does all the cooking and I imagine the restaurant does not have enough manpower to run without her. So I can't do that to her. The week after I am released from the doctor I go back to work. I will have to make up for it in other ways just not travel right now.
I get 4 days off in October, 5 in November and 15 days beginning December 21st. It is what it is. Government schools can pretty much dictate what we do.
I am at the point where she will either hang in there or move on but I will be able to say I tried if everything fails, except the travel issue and really there is nothing I can do about that. I don't want it to fail, she is kind of special to me.
As far as Mike and Chong, I didn't have a problem differing with each other, even arguing a little I just didn't want that to become the focus. I am not saying it would but sometimes when two people argue more info comes out as it did in this case. Both personalities are needed on this site. Both personalities produce stimulating conversation and help to give insight. All of their conversation back and forth stimulated good information.
I have a very close friend here in Georgia, we argue about several thing because we do not see eye to eye on the issues. A stranger might think we hate each other, but we are the best of friends. At the end of the argument we shake hands, sometimes even hug and agree to disagree. Instead of warning them and rebuking, why don't you try to encourage them to agree to disagree.
Chong, one more point. I can't post every last detail. Most of the people here would not read it, I would not, so I tried to hit the highlights.