Well, here is the thing..... we are very much in love, and phermones do not travel by way of email letters....
If she floods me with phermones, then I will flood right back .... sparks are going to fly .... is how I would describe it, right now .... but we will see...
Mike
I have puzzled long and hard whether I should reply to your words, and indeed if I should reply at all….because we all have our own views about the quest for a Chinese beloved and we will all make our own way towards this goal.
I briefly aired my previous experience in Chengdu here and was so glad that I was not the only one who had been taken for a ride.
That lady and I shared hundreds of EMF’s, hundreds of private emails, hours and hours on the Web-cam and ditto on phone calls.
By the time I was ready to go to China I was overwhelmed about my feelings for this woman…my life was finally complete, I had found my “Princess” and was totally elated and committed…..and so was she…as I absolutely believed at the time.
From the moment of our meeting I was shocked (understatement) that this woman could turn out to be such an unprincipled, outright B****H. She was a snarly, arrogant , money hungry monster who treated me as an ATM and held all my views and behaviours in total contempt. And I am not a slob, or an animal, I am an very educated, mature, successful and very decent Man…as I am sure you are.
What I learned in the worst possible way is that NOTHING prepares us for an actual meeting and NEVER could I ever again convince myself that I was in love with any woman unless I had met her and slowly let love happen between us…… or not.
I can tell you , my fellow Bro, that I still have pain from that experience and I have only decided to have another try because I have been able to get the whole thing in context and perspective by listening and reading all the great information here. I don’t say for one moment, God forbid , that your Lovely has any intentions to be dishonest with you, or that she doesn’t feel exactly as she says in her words to you.
If you are the lucky one who has got all this love, and future and commitment from a set of non-physical communications, then you are indeed a very lucky man.
But I have only one use to other Bros on this forum and that is to do my damdest to stop anyone finding that the reality blasts the emotional bottom out of your World. And I still say….keep a little lid on emotions, give yourself a bit of protection, don’t leave yourself wide open for a blast.
Written with the very best intentions and concern for all Bros embarking on this difficult, complex, yet potentially life changing journey.