Well.
I can, as many other Brothers here, understand how hard and difficult it can be for you, to live and to hear that news, Brian.
I just couldn't give you any advice about divorces because I never was married up to now.
I would say that the laywer system is just "so bad" sometimes, because man doesn't really understand why some "cases" can take more time than other ones, even if there's no reason for that.
Maybe can you also go in China and see you lady there, but telling her the truth about the problem you are facing. And, as you still believe in both of you, you will do all you can to go furthermore in your separation with your ex.
I just don't know what to say else, but I'm never too far away to hear and to give any help, even if a bit and little one.