The only real problem i ever had raising my 2 step children from my first marriage was from the Ex.
He was basically telling the 2 of them, that he was there dad, and that they should listen to him and not me!!
So big problems every time they came back from one of the monthly weekend visits. Both my wife and i tried phoning him and trying to get things sorted out amicably, all to no avail. Too easy for him to hang the phone up on us.
Eventually, i decided enough was enough, because these kids were really good kids, and he wasn't going to damage them if i had anything to do with it. So, ....off i went to confront him face to face!! He didn't want to know at first and kept trying to walk away, but i wouldn't let him, i wanted to get this sorted. eventually i got him to go and have a coffee, in one of the coffee house's. I laid things out as plainly as i could, ...OK throwing in a few lame threats, as well, ...but it did seem to do the trick. Now that was hard for me to do, because i just can't stand the guy, Thought he was something special because he was in a pop group, (a one hit wonder group), never had any money and never paid a single penny towards his kids upbringing. But, as i say, no more problems from the Ex after that meeting.
We have never had any problems from either of the Two of them, growing up thru there teen years and beyond. The boy was an out and out Arsenal (gunners) fan and is to this day .... just like his mother was haha!! He has always been surrounded by good friends that are still his friends, and i still know the names of all of them too lol!! Same with my daughter, never any problems with her either, for all her exam passes , she wanted to be a hairdresser!! (typical!! ..lol!!) So that's what she did, and now has 3 salons in her area. My son went on to University and is now a chartered building services engineer employed by a top consultancy firm.
All is not that good though, my daughter got involved with a guy that's 15 years older than her, but with a mental age of a teenager. I think everyone and there dog has told her that he's a waste of space but, ....well you know the score, she didn't listen to anyone. Anyway she married him, and been married about 3 years now. I know that she knows she made a mistake, but hey, ..... she has to work that one out for herself.
But she knows, that I'll always be there to stand by her, and that's the important thing!!
And No, they don't see much of there real dad these days, there not really that interested. I guess he let them down, just too many times over the years..... Didn't even bother to attend either of there marriages, gig venues was more important!!!
Well that's a very brief oversight of 25 yrs or so to date of my kids ...... hahaha!!
David....