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What Chong has described above is commonly seen in China, but i've witnessed it even more so in Hong Kong!!
I have known Chinese guys with Expensive Merc's, BMW's, etc, wear Armani suit's and shirts on a daily basis and possess all the other little luxury goods with known names. But live in slums, like Shep kip mei and other old high density government housing projects. They will NEVER EVER invite you to there homes, only to restaurants... Most are upto there eyeballs in debt, but carry on this farce just in pure hope, While there families suffer. While there families scrimp and save, these bastards are out every night enjoying women, and gambling away, what little the family has, down the drain....
This Face thing, is far more for the men, than it is for women in there society, and even then it's only a perceived Face. A woman's face, if you can call it that, ....is to protect the family and more importantly for the men ... there husbands. That translates to ... anything that goes wrong in the husbands life is the wife's fault so she must pay!!! ....Are all the men like this, ... NO of course not, ...but the ratio does lean more towards those that are, in one way or another, than those that are not!!!
What many Chinese men do posses, is the inability to show any form of affection or love towards there wife's or children after a certain age. If they do, .... it's Never in front of others, not even family members. They perceive it as a sign of weakness. You will for arguments sake, never see your Ladies/wifes parents show any form of affection, it's probably doubtful that her father has told her mother that he loves her since they first got married!!!!
Anyone that will spend an amount of time in China, will witness all of Chongs 6 points raised here, (well maybe not item 3 if there not that up in understanding the language!!...hahaha!!!)
Most of the divorces that are sort, are by the ladies , but only after putting up with a life of hell for years.. And yes, ...Those Real Sad husbands that were presented with a daughter by there wife and not the desired son, to carry his family name on....
On the whole, ...Pretty shallow buggers all round....
David....