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Now that's what i call an interesting post, Your pointing out the things that a western man wouldn't come across with marrying a western woman. It's taken me 3 years so far, to get Lucy to think along the lines of a marriage being a 50/50 relationship. I still haven't got there yet, but slowly ,slowly were getting there.
When we were first together, she told me that a Chinese wife always follows her husband, ...meaning the husband was the boss and the woman followed. Simple equation one might first think, It's not!! Then you have to add into that equation, that the woman is the boss of all household matters like caring for the family, health of the family, taking control of household money, washing ,ironing, cleaning,cooking, etc, etc, etc!! Plus a few other bib's and bob's, ...It doesn't take too long for you to realise, what the husband is boss of, .....Not much is the real answer, not if you let the above mentioned areas stay as they are.......
I'll be writing a post based on the above, in the next couple of days or so.
Again, enjoyed reading this post, i hope you tell us more of your wives ways and her version of a wife's duties in marriage...
David....