Thats funny Jim.You Martin and Ed all have the same problems.Your not aloud out by yourselve.Me I can go out when I want to.As long as I take a phone and I come back when she tells me I need to be back.
Isn't it funny full grown men arn't aloud to play outside.Without Chinese adult supervision.
I know I feel like I have a mother. Well, the honeymoon is over. She asked me to hang up the clothes to dry. She didnt have enough time from lunch to do it.
AND I told her if I got into any trouble or lost, I would call her on my cell. She then relented. So YAY, I got the keys. LOL. Pathetic isnt it. A full grown man getting excited because he can go outside by himself.
Here is a synopsis of my story. I am putting this here in response to Mikes thread.
Chong is right, he has been with me since the beginning, he knows my story as well as anyone. . I was writing my lady for months using EMF's spending hundreds of dollars. Only to find out after I went to China to meet her that most of the letters were from the translator. I had no idea of any of this until much later. Prior to leaving I had told the translator that if i go there and she was not the person I thought she was or no one, I would report them to some contacts I had in the Peoples Congress. (Which I do) She was almost forced by them to come to meet me. I was all of a sudden told that her and the translator would pick me up a the airport. (This was never mentioned before). I told them no, at the hotel. I wanted to clean up first after a 20 hour flight. I got to the hotel took a shower and put on my suit. Anyway, they were a half hour late. She did not look like her picture, but I knew it was her from the hair. Now here is the long story that i will cut short. She said later that she really did not know why I would come all that way to see her because we didnt know each other. She said she saw me in my suit and said he looks pretty nice, we will go on a one day date. Of course I did not know this, I thought everything was ok. We go to the Forbidden City along with my friend Benny who helped translate. Longer story shorter by the time my trip was done we were engaged. I bought her a computer so we could QQ and we did twice a day until I came here for our marriage. QQ helped to solidify our relationship. I just got lucky, extremely lucky when I found her. I think it was just meant to be. Of course we worked at it. You have to.
So you can write and write and write and still not know for certain who the other person really is. If I could only give one piece of advice, it would be to have at least one web cam visit prior to spending all that money on going. You can take a leap of faith and it can work. But do not use my relationship as an example other than I was so very very lucky in finding this woman. So, it can work for Mike, he is the only one that can call it. I feel very strongly about both sides being honest. Chong has been on the other end of this so he knows what he is talking about. Before anyone says anything, yes I consider him a friend/son?
The more time I spend here the more I can understand where the women are coming from. A lot of conversations with my wife about this. From what I can tell the other guys that are with their women are seeing the same thing. But, dishonesty is dishonesty. There may be personal reasons for it, other than trying to scam the other person but it will usually come back to haunt you. What she owes you is nothing more than honesty and you owe her that too, no matter how much money you spend. No one is putting a gun to your head and making you do it. You are doing it to find your dream and only you can know how much in personal anguish you can put up with in finding it.
