We went ot to dinner tonight at a nice place. Of course Qingqing had to take over. She had to order, she had to pass the food out, she had to do everything. now normally i do not mind this. Besides it is usually on one or two meals. but tonight she really got to me. she is a 16 year old in a grown up womans body with an angelic face and a personality of a spoiled 5 year old. I cannot eat spicy food. Because of my stomach injuries if I do it kills me later. I have told her this. well, she orders the spiciest food on the menu, except for one thing. Ok, no problem. When she passes the food out she hides some really hot stuff under the stuff i eat so when i get it, I also get a big bite of it. she laughs her head off. OK. she starts to pick out some of the things she does not like and puts them on another plate. No problem. then she fills the plate up and then starts to flick the pices off, some of them get on her mothers dress, Mama does not say anything just picks them off. Then she starts towards me. Thats when i put a halt to it. Of course she pouts. Now she has made a mess of the table. I start to straighten it out but when I do she just makes more of a mess. So I figure it will just make more work forthe employees there so I quit. then she has to hand feed everyone. I tell her i am full but of course that does not go, because she starts to force it in my mouth, until I either eat it or I go off, so I eat it. She just laughs and thinks it is funny. She gets a bite of food that is hot, she puts it in her teeth and hollers mor mama, so mama has to blow on it until it cools down. Now I blame my wife for this behavior but what am I going to say? When she gets up to go to the bathroom, my wife says sometimes Qingqing acts like a child, i just look at her and say "Whose fault is that?" She says hers, I say then why not do something about it? She says well i have felt guilty about her not having a father. I say now she does, you do not have to feel guilty anymore. I will help you if you want me to. She says well wait. i say ok, but if we get to the states and she continues this way, i will step in and take care of it. I raised my daughter to never do anything like this crap and she doesnt. now she is upset with me. But at this point, I do not care. I just cannot put up with this behavior. I tell me wife, I want to love Qingqing but I cannot when she acts this way. So you need to start correcting this behavior. She is doing nothing but hurting herself in the long run. No one will want to be around her. Anyway she and i walked home quietly while the brat kept up her shit. Goosestepping, making fun of people, etc. I am telling you I am keeping my cool with the kid. So we shall see.
