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« Reply #225 on: September 20, 2009, 12:11:12 am »
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JimB, the best known scenario would be if Mama agreed to let you ( Baba ) take Qingqing out behind the wood shed with a willow switch but you and I know that, that aint going to happen so do like David5o, Ed W., and David E. also Shaun is right, if they were born teenagers I would have killed my two and replaced them with 2 more, better behaved,  Hahahaha.


MLM,

Funny thing happened.  After typing my previous response I stepped in to the restroom for a few.  My son came in and read what I wrote before I posted.  He said, "Dad, who are you kidding.  We know when to stop with you. You get that going postal look in your eyes and we stop."  I said, "Hmmm.... I guess I need to get that look a little sooner." As he walked out of my room I heard him say quietly, "Crap!"

Man I love messing with their minds. :icon_cheesygrin:

He's a good kid though.

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« Reply #226 on: September 20, 2009, 01:06:06 am »
Jim, I think it best to not assume she ordered the spicy food on purpose. It could be her way of being playful. As for the mess I would have said something like "What are you 5 years old, I thought you were more mature then that?" at that age they think they are adults. Work the age thing and she might start understanding.
You have to be quick witted. If she is anything like my kids. :s  When they were young I said something like stop acting like little kids and got a reply of "but we are kids?" little bitches. :dodgy:
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« Reply #227 on: September 20, 2009, 03:53:11 am »
Wow, I'm glued to the continuing adventures of Qinqing :angel:.

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« Reply #228 on: September 20, 2009, 07:00:35 am »
Jim put something on her plate that she does not like, :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:hidden of course...

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« Reply #229 on: September 20, 2009, 08:37:20 am »
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Jim put something on her plate that she does not like, :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:hidden of course...


Rob, I understand what you are saying but I think that give approval for her to do things like that more.

If you did that with me the war would be on.  I remember one of my children testing me like that with tossing a little food at me with her spoon; a piece of corn I think.  I looked at her, smiled, went back to eating.  As soon as she looked away she got a face full of mashed potatoes.  The war was on.  The three kids and I were having a great time.  We were at home.  I looked at my ex and smoke was boiling from her ears. I asked the kids to stop.  That evening I told the kids we all clean up the mess.  I could bring it back on today with one little flick of food and the war would be on.  Before the divorce mom loosened up a little and participated a couple of times but you could tell she really didn't like it.

I think it is best to calmly but with authority say that he does not like or approve of that.  Wife needs to back it up too. This is the biggest key.  With my 19 year old son it is simple.  Do what you are told or no money for gas, or no internet, or if he doesn't like rules or chores he can find another place to live.  He does what I ask.

Shaun

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« Reply #230 on: September 20, 2009, 08:55:43 am »
No mate.......it would show her that IT'S not nice when it happens to YOU...A lesson learned !!!

When she would get to it and start going on, THAT would be the time to say..."You did not like that, NOW you know how I felt...!!! "
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« Reply #231 on: September 20, 2009, 08:59:38 am »
There is also the language problem with her.  She does very very little English.  So even if I say something it has to be interpreted so it then looses some of its flavor.  And then she does crap like to day.  I have actually been ill today from the spicy food.  She knows it was her fault.  Instead of gloating,(which I thought she would do), she took the day taking care of me.  Making sure I was ok, making me something to eat,(Yes I made her test it first).  Of course Mama was mad at her as today was our one month anniversary and I am sick and she had taken the day off of work to be with me so we could do something together.   I was in bed until about 1 PM this afternoon.  I dont know.  I tell you if I had known this kid like this before we got married. I would not have done it.  we would have waited until she was out of the nest and gone.  I knew the kid was spoiled and could act up, I just didnt know it was this bad.  I do not want to over react because that will make it worse in the long run.  And yes I need my wife as a united front.  But, I tell you, there are days.  It is great when she is gone during the week.  I am beginning to dread the week ends now.  Well I only have two more to get through and I will be going back to the states.  
When I see my daughter i am going to give her the biggest hug for both things, one, giving us twins and two for being the great kid she was and woman that she has become.  She turns 30 today.
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RE: A Southerners continuing journey in China
« Reply #232 on: September 20, 2009, 10:00:56 am »
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She knows it was her fault. Instead of gloating,(which I thought she would do), she took the day taking care of me. Making sure I was ok, making me something to eat


You'll see she learned her lesson. There are some that think things like this are funny (spicy food) they do it without any thoughts. Let me guess? Is she a Taurus? (19 April – 20 May)

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« Reply #233 on: September 21, 2009, 09:33:49 am »
Sorry, she was born November 11th.  I finally got over it this afternoon.  By the way, i havent said it for the past couple of posts, but I have the most wonderful wife.  Today is our 1 month anniversary.  She is the most loving caring woman, she does things for me that i do not even ask for.  She makes sure I have clean clothes every day.  Anything I want I get, she is working very hard everyday on her English.  She does 100 little things that I never thought of.  I like a couple of glasses of red wine at night.  Usually with dinner.   Yesterday she saw that I was out. (Of course I wasnt drinking anyway)  She went out and made a special trip to the grocery store to make sure I had some when i wanted it.  I am a football fan so Sunday nights here i stay up to 1 AM so I can catch a game.  She said she was waiting up with me until the game came on even though she had to get up at 6 am to go to work.  She brought me out a pillow and a comforter so i would not be cold while watching the game.  Of course I fell asleep after the game was over at 4:30 so she got up came and got me, put me to bed and told me to sleep until she came home for lunch and would cook me something then.  Like I said, we have only been married for a month but I have a feeling she would do it forever more.  How lucky can one man be.  
Tonight we went out to dinner to one of her favorite places.  I have had trouble since I have been here finding unsweet ice tea.  they actually had some new stuff at this restaurant.  She went back to the owner and asked him where he bought it, so after dinner off we go to this place, she bought a case of it for me.  During dinner they also had a type of Soy sauce that i found i liked.  She talked the waitress into filling a bottle up for us to take home.  This time she said OK to the tip.  it seems the waitress and she are from the same home town, plus the waitress remembered me from before.  Plus she loves it when I admit that I am wrong.  I told her she was right about our anniversary being the wedding dinner day, not the day we got out red books.  She called her best friend and told her, her brother and Qingqing.  
I have to admit that I am getting a bit homesick.  Not knowing the language well enough to get out on my own very much plus her working has sort of gotten to me. we go out most every evening for dinner but that leaves me alone most of the day.  I do go outside to the park here but the kids are in school.  I have English language TV on my computer and I found a place I can download a ton of movies, but that also gets old.  I miss my family back home.  I have gotten a feel for how it will be for her when she comes to the states so i can be sympathetic to her.  She is so great, i dont want her to be sad for one single day.  She says the same thing about me too.  Anyway her feet are on my back telling me it is time for bed.
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RE: A Southerners continuing journey in China
« Reply #234 on: September 21, 2009, 01:10:50 pm »
Jim,

You luck dog you.

Shaun

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« Reply #235 on: September 21, 2009, 01:15:49 pm »
Jim, yes I thnk that shaun is right....You are a lucky dog....

Man enjoy it...

Homesickness is dreadful, I remember getting it the last time I was away working, just keep the happy thoughts of your lady in your mind mate...

Everything will be fine mate.:icon_biggrin:

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« Reply #236 on: September 21, 2009, 03:31:22 pm »
Homesickness sucks...but remember how much worse it would be if you were not with her right now.  Keep your chin up, and enjoy yourself.  I am enjoying your posts Sarge.

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« Reply #237 on: September 21, 2009, 08:42:44 pm »
JimB, even though I have my family here with me, it seems that I get homesick for China, I mean I really get a little down about it, I drag around in a funk, and when I'm in China I feel I am home, America doesn't feel like home to me anymore, I come here to work to make money so we can go home for a month or two, I can't wait to retire, just keep your self busy and before you know it you'll be coming back.
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« Reply #238 on: September 21, 2009, 09:14:05 pm »
It is not a full blown crisis, just a little homesickness.  She works all day and it is tough to get around without knowing the language that well.  As I said in another post, not everyone can understand the translator that well.  Then it becomes them guessing and asking you then you guessing back then Who's on first or Wan on Second St. LOL.  I think more than anything it is my daughter being pregnant and my granddaughter crying the last time I talked to her asking me when I would be home.
Oh, by the way that reminds me, last week I passed this St.:  Nanu Nanhu Blvd.  I cracked up.  I remember an old story by Buddy Hackett.  he came to China back just before President Nixon did.  Buddy Hackett, was a real comedian, in one of his little bits he told the audience in China that the new greeting in America was Nanu Nanu (Robin Williams) and held his hands up like Robin did in Mork from Ork. When he left he had everyone in the audience doing it.  He said about a week later just before he was going to leave he was told that an ambassador greeted one of Nixon's aides in this manner and was very embarrassed when told of the origin and had actually given orders for Hackett to never set foot on Chinese soil again. And he never did.  I heard Hackett tell that story a number of times. He said he was put on Nixons black list too.
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« Reply #239 on: September 21, 2009, 09:22:00 pm »
Nanu Nanu!