Ok so I am going back sometime soon ^_^ was planning on the end of September, but my lady seems to have thrown a twist into the plan. I have already met this girl so the validity of her existance is not in question, or scamming or other eclectic head bashing haha....
Initially I had planned on arriving the day before her birthday, yay for me browny points and the whole thing there. BUT, mom has different plans >_< She wants her to celebrate her birthday via the lunar calender........ Ok, now my girl is upset, because now she thinks she has disrupted my plans. I have tried telling her that, the simple fact of her mom wanting to celebrate her birthday culturally different than what she first presented me does not bother me in the least, and that I should still come regardless of the birthday thing right, and that the change in date does not bother me. I have also mentioned we can celebrate her birthday between us in any way she wants to celebrate. Including me traveling for a few days when she will celebrate with her family.
I think that she thinks that she has lost face with me somehow, no matter what I have told her and so forth, she still remains upset over the date... And without elaborating to much further, she sincerely believes that it will be to hot at the end of september for a trip.......
One of 3-12 things,
She is getting cold feet?
I am reading to far into this and should appologize and send flowers anyways, because I am still a westerner that does not know jack in her mind. >_<
I am ignorant and should send flowers and appologize profusly on my western ways and accept responsibility for the change of her birthday. Even my willingness to accept it because in a way she is pissed at her mom for clinging to old culture ways. And that I am not standing up for her to celebrate things in her own way.
Option 5 CTRL ALT DELETE and go to sleep
Option 6 send flower to myself, and tell her thank you for the flowers...
There is no option 4 because option 4 would be ignorant and unlucky.
