Greeings Brothers,
Well Doug for me it was a strange way. After I seperated from my soon to be EX I checked out all the usual sites in Canada, Plenty of fish ,Lavalife ,Metrodating, etc, and to be honest what I saw on those sites was very disheartening. I suddenly realized at my age, 51 I was in for a rough and rocky road to find the last love of my life. Now I have always carried a torch for asian women ever since I was very young. I do not know why that was .I had never written to or dated any but their look and mannerisms and yes even those beautiful sing song voices pulled at my heart. My EX was Italian and we shared almost 20 years, before it ended. Anyway now that we are parted I started my search on the north american dating sites. Somewhere in all that surfing I must have come across a link to CHNlove.
As soon as I went to that site I knew where I would have to go to find my love. I cancelled my profile on every other website and focused on chnlove. Suddenly North American women had lost their appeal to me. Although as I said there was not much appeal left to begin with. So I did as the site suggested being a total newb I browsed the 35 to 50 range, me being 51 I figured that 35 was as low as it would be smart to go. So I added quite a few beautiful ladies to my favourites ranging in age from 36 to 47. Then the admirer letters started pouring in. To say I was stunned at this development would be an understatement. On the north american sites I might get notice of someone reading my profile or a message sent but upon investigation it was always someone I was not interested in.
With chnlove however, it was a totally different story. Her were some of the worlds most beautiful women sending admire letters to me. Somehow I managed to narrow it down to 4 and sent replies via emf to them. In less than a week I found another that I had to write to. As soon as I saw Her face I knew she was the one for me. I read her profile and sent the emf. So now thats five women I was writing to. All beautiful the youngest was 37 the oldest was 47. Where in the western world could you write to 5 women in that age group and all of them being stunningly beautiful? Anyway in less than a week I decided that she was the one and I must end my contact with the other 4. Man I have to say that was a most painfull day. Telling these four women that I had found a connection with another and must in good consience stop writing to them, was a very hard thing to do. Yet all four wrote back and thanked me for my kind letters, all four were sad that they were not the one for me, and all four offered to remain friends. Again I ask you where in the western world would such a thing have happened?
So now I have found her. she is beautiful, cheerful, funny, happy, and a ray of sunshine to my soul. We have discussed much and progressed well until my divorce came into the picture. I told here at the start that there would only be honesty and truth between us so I told her when she asked about my divorce . Well that did not go so well I am afraid. The divorce was not specifically the problem but rather that it could take 15 months or more for me to be free to marry again. That news hit her very hard. I almost lost her with that news but as I said only honesty and truth between us. She said she did not know if she could wait that long as she is not young anymore (she is 41 and I am 51). Needless to say I was crushed by this. So I did the only thing I could I laid it all on the line told her exactly what I felt and where I saw us going. I told here that I would come to her and meet her and if we decided things were not as we thought I would set her free and she would not have to wait to find out if we were right for each other. That was one of the most difficult letters I had ever written in my life. Now this happened just as the typhoon Maracot hit Taiwan and then the mainland. Her agency it seemed was closed for at least a day, and it took a couple more for her to write back to me. It was the longest 4 days of my life.
However the reply was most wonderfull to here. She told me she loved me ( that was the first time she actually said it) and that she agreed we should meet. She said she didnt want me to give her up and she didnt want to give me up either. To say a wieght was lifted from my soul is an understatement of epic proportions. So the long and the short of it is I am off to China to meet this wonderful woman at the end of October. I plan to go for a month, which should be plenty of time to find out for sure what we have between us.
So the moral of this great long winded post? Follow your heart and do what you need to to find your dreams. Be totally honest to the lady you write to and respect both her and yourself. I almost lost Hong because of being honest but in the end it was also the salvation of our relationship. So for me I am totally sure that I have found the woman who will become my wife and walk with me together until the end.
Regards to all
Brian
