Hello everyone, first of all thank you for this forum, your experience, combined knowledge and wealth of information, it is most helpful. I also like the banter you guys have, it's very funny.
I am trying to give as complete a picture as possible and apologise for the length of this letter, but, to the more experienced people, they may see something I cannot.
My quandry is: I was contacted by a lady saying she liked my profile and we had things in common. In fact we had many things in common. We seemed to get along great and were of like minds regarding the future and of what we wanted. She was honest and said that there was some guy who was writing to her. I got the feeling she had been trawling the site while writing to him and then contacted me, ( her perogative to do so ). In less than a week with 3 very long letters each she was on about making a choice, I told her she was free to do what she thought was best for herself and that we are both free to walk away from this if desired. I thought that she had opted for the other guy. I prepared to move on and thought nothing more about it. Her unexpected next letter was about Chinese wedding traditions and that I could choose our wedding but she would prefer a Chinese wedding because she has never been married. She also sent a questionnaire for me to answer, all of which came as a massive surprise. She must have been busy learning how to use google translator and gave me her email address to send the reply to probably because of the personal info from the questions I reckon. They were nothing sexual but the innuendo was very subtle and the answers may have been a little embarrassing in front of an interpreter. She also requested some more photos which I sent. I have heard nothing from her for 5 days. This is not like her because she answers promptly. I know she was going home from Hong Kong to Shenzhen because it was her birthday early this week, also her father's birthday is sometime this week too and I guess all the family will be together. In view of the above I am not sure what to do. I have written to her but had no reply, so I am thinking of moving on due to lack of communication. I know it is an open question but would I be doing the right thing, am I being fair to her? Do they normally tell you if they wish to stop writing assuming that is the case. I just wondered if anyone had experienced a similar thing and what do they make of this.
Many thanks for your time.
