Hi brothers, I am from Australia and have been writing to a lady in Wuhan and now we have reached the stage where I may be going to visit her.
I haven't made any promises or commitment to her, I just said that I would visit her and we would see what happens from here. So the relationship may not be as strong as some of the other members who have visited their ladies.
She agreed to this. However, the excitement of this has sort of changed to worry, I have a few questions, maybe some experienced members can answer?
1) For those who have done this already, how long did you go on your first trip? I was thinking 14 nights, but I am concerned this may be too long. Especially if things do not work out with the lady. I asked the lady and she said I would only know once I meet her.
2) The lady lives in Wuhan and I said that I wanted to also visit Shanghai. Mainly because I find after travelling all the way from Australia to China, I would like to do some tourism and see a major city. This is no big deal, but I thought I would make the most of my trip to China. I study Mandarin and am very interested in China, so I wanted to incorporate more China sight seeing into my trip. I haven't asked the lady if she wanted to travel to Shanghai with me just because I do not know if she is able to or the expense of this. So I was thinking of just going there for a few nights on my own. Did anyone else do something like this on their trip? Or did you only visit the lady's hometown? It just seems like a long way to travel just to visit a backwater place, if you know what I mean.
3) The lady wants to use a translator because she says that she is nervous about meeting a foreigner for the first time. I said that I am happy with this. How long did you use a translator for? Was it expensive? Is this a good idea?
4) How did the lady find the time to see you with work and other commitments? My lady says that part of the time I visit will be on a public holiday so she will be able to see me. But what about the rest of my time there? I know I can't expect her to drop everything in her life to see me, but by travelling all this way to see her, I am doing that for her.
5) Is it customary to bring a gift for the lady? What did you bring? As I said before, I am not initially visiting China to marry her immediately. So I think I would be better off giving her a small token rather than making a grand romantic gesture.
I am sorry if these sound like silly questions. I just do not know where to start with this. Thanks in advance to anyone who can answer any of my questions. At first I was really excited about this, but now reality has set in. Ha ha. But in a worse case scenario if things do not work out, I am hoping just to have a good holiday in China.