OK, I have to get this off my chest. I apologize for the length of this text.
I have been corresponding with my lady since early May now and I have felt more and more confident that we will actually meet like we have discussed. Nothing has indicated so far that she is fake or that she is corresponding with other men (knock on wood). We correspond every two or three days (that is what I have time for right now) and write short emails in Chinese as well.
I only have one problem. From the very beginning she has been sending me studio pictures. We talked early on about meeting via webcam and talking on the phone. She seemed very eager to do it. Then she said that since the agency is so far away and she would like to have an interpreter with her the first time we meet on a webcam, maybe we should wait. I was disappointed but accepted that she was shy. I asked for her phone number and she replied that her phone didn't have an international service so I could not call her. I asked for her number again and said that I wanted to try anyway, I could send a text message and we would both see if she received it or not. No reply.
I have kept asking for REAL pictures of her, she has kept replying that she does not have a camera. I suggested that maybe she could use her phone to take some pictures. She replied that the quality would be bad and when I told her I didn't care about the pixel quality she finally sent me two pictures (apparently not taken with a phone but with an ordniary camera). I was very happy and thought that maybe she had borrowed a camera from a friend. But no, she suddenly "found" the pictures in her computer.
I sent her a hand written letter in Chinese. She was very happy and excited when she got it and took two photos of it. So suddenly she has got a camera now? About the webcam suggestion: She lives in a dormitory at her company but has a computer in her room which she uses to send the letters to the agency. So what is the problem? She apparently has a camera at her disposal and she does have her own computer, still she is not willing do to anything else but write EMF letters and emails. I keep sending her pictures of me but I never get anything back (she send romantic pictures and music but honestly I would prefer pictures of her, not hearts and flowers).
I have thought about these issues more and more and to be honest, I am pretty disappointed. I understand that she is shy. But if she can't even send me pictures because of it, what will happen when we finally meet (trip scheduled for December)? Will she hide behind a tree? As a student going to China is a big economic commitment for me. I don't want to go there not feeling entirely commited to her. If I am going in December, I would like to have more certainty about this woman. Letters are not enough. Just like a girl said to me recently: "People can write anything in letters, it's easy to write I love you. A child can do that."
She has sent me a "gift" in the mail, it would take up to two weeks to arrive so I am waiting to see what it is before I decide anything drastic. But right now, I feel the spirit is slowly fading away (the first sign is that the letters are harder to write).
Hello Hans
I have just read your thread and all post from other brothers . Yes, you are a young guy , but you know many our brothers have young heart here , We were born in the same period , but we can communicate with other brothers very well , because we come here and talk to each other with our young and honest heart , It seems all of brothers are very young at heart , haha I think age is just a state of mind , you will be always young when you have the passion for life ,right ?
Well , speaking of your questions , I noticed that you have received the gift of your lady , that sounds great . As for the natural pictures and webcam , other brothers's words are right , firstly, some person don't want to show their real face ,because they are afraid that you will not like their real faces . Secondly , their poor English . Thirdly , the girl think you are not the right person for her , so this is a excuse . Fourthly , the issue of translator and agency . You said it is difficult for your girl to have a webcam meeting , because there is a long way .right ?
Hans, you would better continue to ask the natural pictures of the girl if it is really difficult for her to find the webcab . If you think the girl is right for you when you see her natural picture , maybe you can consider your China trip , yes, I know you are studying in the school ,but you have right to find your love as our other brothers ,if you still want to come to China , I will give you my suggestions for an economical way for you , I will use my resources to help you arrange your trip , I just hope you will not miss your girl . Of course , this happens before you know your girl better , if she is not right for you ,don't worry ,I know some honest ladies who really want to find their life partner , Maybe I can introduce some right person for you . haha . anyway, you are still young and there must be a right person who is waiting for you in the world .
By the way , I read a lot of the words of mandarin and cantonese here from our brothers . Do you want to study Mandarin in China ? When ?
Truly speaking , it is easy to recognize the Mandarin and Cantonese . I want to tell you and all brothers here , Mandarin is the offical language in China , most of the Chinese people (undertand Mandarin though some place has their own dialects . Usually speaking , China has seven main big dialects ,including Mandarin and Cantonese . But China government advocate the Mandarin as offical languages , the students learn mandarin from their primary school , so now most of the Chinese people can understand Mandarin rather than cantonese . Cantonese another dialect ,it is popula in Guangdong provinces ,includes Hong Kong , Macao and other Chinese people in south asia . We also call Shanghai dialect Wu dialect , it is usually popular in Shanghai and Jiangsu provinces , so brothers , now you can understand that most the Chinese people understand Mandarin, but it is difficult for the Chinese people who are not from Guangdong and Shanghai understand Cantonese and Shanghai dialects . I also study western language and culture and know you also have dialects , I meet many foreigners from many countries of the world . Really nice to talk to them , I am sure our world is great just because of the great difference ,right ? Hope we can exchange more in the near future .
Anyway , it seems that I talked a lot , hope that will not bother you and all brothers , spirt can not be fading , but rising , because world is great , right ? Good luck ! :heart: