China Romance
General Discussion and Useful Links => Newbies Corner => Topic started by: Willy The Londoner on October 23, 2010, 07:12:35 am
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Hi. Maybe this posting will not be removed.
I follow Vince here and I ask why is a 23 year old advertising her self on here.
I note that the only ones to write so far except Vince are already married. The trouble is just coming on here without any recommendation will not get you far at all. To many men are suspicious of agencies so what will they think of you coming here unannounced and with scant information.
I am trying to see where I have seen your picture before as you look familiar. I have an extensive library.
You say nothing about youself neither where you are from or what you do.
So without any recommendations then I for one will be very suspicious of you until you are more forhcoming.
I know Chong said that there may be the odd 25 - 30 year old on this site. But also some odd 30 - 60 year old ones as well. It is not just the young who are odd.
So more info is needed by this odd old one.
Willy
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I know Chong said that there may be the odd 25 - 30 year old on this site. But also some odd 30 - 60 year old ones as well. It is not just the young who are odd.
So more info is needed by this odd old one.
LOL Willy ... I meant "odd" meaning a "few" but you're also right about the Forum having an 'odd' number of 'odd' characters.
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Just wondering by the time on her profile she is in London ????
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it's not that it's suspicious (but is to some degree), but to me it doesn't make sense why she posted here? AND Maxx what did you edit?
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Well Vince i guess we will see what happens. Whatever happened to the other one who cuased a stir here
and then she dissapeared?? This one has all the ways you can contact her which i thought was strange also.
Someone also deleted my earlier post here on this thread
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Whatever happened to the other one who cuased a stir here
and then she dissapeared??
If you're referring to Ms. Chen Yen ... she's still a member here & she posts regularly.
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Vince I think Maxx just split her original posting to this new thread. I think I first saw it posted under Jimmy's thread about Is it really that bad and deceiving.
And Chong, I think the other girl poster refered too, is Crystal Tao.
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Hmm, odd 25-30 and odd 30-60, I think I fit into both categories :D as I'm considered a bit odd by some, and being 30 am on the edge of the age ranges for both :P
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She is not in London. It appears that she is in Guangzhou. There are many ways that she could have found our forum, since our name is out there in several locations. I agree with the members, that if you are looking for a man to spend your life with, that maybe you should provide more information to us here.
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Yes it was me who deleted the posts.And started the new thread.I want to know which one of you who posted on this girls thread.Is a fortune teller.Which one of you can see the future.If you are so wise and clever to be able to foretell the future.Maybe you can give me the lotto numbers.For Wednesday night drawing.
You attack a new member.You make inane posts.About this lady character.Without even knowing her.Some brotherhood this is.When somebody comes along and they don't fit your preconceived notion.Of somebody that belongs to this little group.You all jump on this person like a pack of wild dogs.And like a pack of wild dogs this lady has done nothing to provoke you.
You all need to think about what you posted.You should be ashamed of yourselves.
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Maxx,
I sent you a pm on what i know about it. Read it as it is a useful peice of information
and warrants what i said.
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Yes it was me who deleted the posts.And started the new thread.I want to know which one of you who posted on this girls thread.Is a fortune teller.Which one of you can see the future.If you are so wise and clever to be able to foretell the future.Maybe you can give me the lotto numbers.For Wednesday night drawing.
You attack a new member.You make inane posts.About this lady character.Without even knowing her.Some brotherhood this is.When somebody comes along and they don't fit your preconceived notion.Of somebody that belongs to this little group.You all jump on this person like a pack of wild dogs.And like a pack of wild dogs this lady has done nothing to provoke you.
You all need to think about what you posted.You should be ashamed of yourselves.
No Maxx i think you are wrong.
You know that this forum is full of men who have or think they have been scammed or conned.
The moderators should have required more information from her before posting such a thread. What are we allways asking for from the ladies we are in contact with - 'Natural Photos' and a woman that arrives unnnannouced and without an introduction is able to come on here in the same way that unwanted emails sind their way every day to my yahoo email boxes.
Of course we are going to be wary of her. Every other women who has been posted with the intention of finding a man has been by introduced by an existing member not just come on and said 'Hi I want a man who speaks English."
I get to speak with her and I will apologise. We find her photo's elsewhere and we will accept your apology.
Willy
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There are three possibilities here.
1. The person who joined and opened the thread really is a woman looking for a husband who was kind of timid about doing this and was testing the waters so to speak. But after what has been said will not be back.
2. The person who joined and opened the thread is someone who is playing a little bit of a scam on this site. They may have retreated when the posts were less than favorable.
3. (This is the one I think it is.) A previous member of this site is screwing with you. Look at the stir it has caused.
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My thinking is with both Willy & Shaun. I will track her down if I need to but she's not coming back and never intended to. That's why she left all the contact info, she's fishing. She'll wait to see who contacts her. She's not interested on this forum or what is going on here.
Now you can't say her post isn't suspicious. I'll leave it at that. I'm not interested in dragging this out longer.
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Funny thing is, that we see a lot of men register with this site, who are equally suspicious, but don't get jumped on in the same manner. We do not have a Men Only clause on this site. We are open to anyone seeking a relationship between a western man, and a Chinese woman. Is this person a scammer? Possibly. I guess she has been convicted by some here, without anyone knowing the true facts.
Why is it, that whenever a woman joins this site, guys here get all excited, and threads start getting heated? Get over yourselves, she has a vagina! Now that we have this little lesson out of the way, why not let her bury herself, or on the flip side, let her introduce herself in a better way before we all jump to every possible conclusion based on only a few words. When a man shows up, and only writes a few words, I sure don't see this same amount of attention.
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WELL, if a man gets on and posts he wants to marry a english speaking man? I think the posts would still be heated? even more. :o :P ::)
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well said martin
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Martin has it right , not just because he is the Boss . I think this .. when a new Member joins , it is after all the Mods responsibility to check/see if it's a Man or Woman .. to take action against such individual if it calls for it . It really isn't the registered Member's Job to Judge/Condemn before the Person is known more of His/Her intentions .
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Funny thing is, that we see a lot of men register with this site, who are equally suspicious, but don't get jumped on in the same manner. We do not have a Men Only clause on this site. We are open to anyone seeking a relationship between a western man, and a Chinese woman. Is this person a scammer? Possibly. I guess she has been convicted by some here, without anyone knowing the true facts.
Why is it, that whenever a woman joins this site, guys here get all excited, and threads start getting heated? Get over yourselves, she has a vagina! Now that we have this little lesson out of the way, why not let her bury herself, or on the flip side, let her introduce herself in a better way before we all jump to every possible conclusion based on only a few words. When a man shows up, and only writes a few words, I sure don't see this same amount of attention.
Your not right Martin. Whenever a man comes on with scant information he is always asked by someone to tell us a bit more. But he has usually makes some sort of post in reply to a thread. I cannot remember a man coming on and just saying I am an American/Canadian/Englishman,frenchman etc and I am looking for a Chinese wife after starting a new thread.
I can remember the man who was jumped on after he joined a couple of dozen forums the same day including I think an Alabama Cross stitch forum!!!!
Willy
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LOL Willy ... I meant "odd" meaning a "few" but you're also right about the Forum having an 'odd' number of 'odd' characters.
Would like to thank you Chong for the recognition
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Just a little curious here but could I get pointed into the right direction and read the posts or have they already been removed?
Dave C
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Just a little curious here but could I get pointed into the right direction and read the posts or have they already been removed?
Dave C
Dave,
I think you mean posts of new guys showing up here, and how they were treated?
here is a starting list for you .... just need to dig through all the posts ... :)
Mike,
I meant the posts the lady made that they are talking about. I just wanted to see what all the fuss was about.
Dave C
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I can remember the man who was jumped on after he joined a couple of dozen forums the same day including I think an Alabama Cross stitch forum!!!!
Willy
Willy,
An Alabama Cross Stitch forum!?!!! There is actually a forum on Cross Stitching and it is in Alabama???! I just have a problem picturing this... a good ol' boy sitting with a group of others doing cross stitching... :o ::)
Dave C
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I've missed something here !!! :(
Who are we talking about and where is the 'post'??/ :o :o
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Hmm, odd 25-30 and odd 30-60, I think I fit into both categories :D as I'm considered a bit odd by some, and being 30 am on the edge of the age ranges for both :P
Being 30 is like being 13. To old for the young ones, to young for the old ones.
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Just came across this the other day....probably it is the Alabama "cross" stitch forum ????
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First and foremost... the following is just my opinion. Take it for what it's worth.
I see nothing -nothing wrong with anyone ( male or female) trying to better their-self. If you really stop to think about it, that is why we are all here to begin with. I confess that is why I am here. I am here trying to obtain the knowledge and advice to be with the one I love. plain and simple
I was directed to this forum by a Chinese female ( Crystal Tao) who was also met with some skepticism by a few here. Crystal was the first person to know of my problem ( Ping being married) since this problem was beyond her realm of knowledge, she was kind enough to direct me here( I am glad she did)
I know there are scams perpetuated by a few agencies and females out there, but we would be stupid to think, that there aren't a equal or greater number of male players /playboys who are only looking for a sex- cation and would do or say anything to make that happen as well.
Looking at my address bar that says http://www.chinaromance.net (http://www.chinaromance.net) and the header at the top of the page That says "China Love -relationships in China" with the double happiness symbol -I can see how a Chinese lady could be confused and join thinking she might find someone and better herself. Instead of attacking, shouldn't we be more helpful and guide her .....after-all she might just be looking for the same thing, we are all looking for..... love plain and simple.
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Well said James,
Personally I treat everyone the same until they give me a reason not too.
Err........
Greetings from the Alabama cross stitch forum.......
Hello, I'm new to the site and I really like what I see so far. When I found out that I was going to be a grandmother I picked up cross-stitch again and did 2 Winnie the Pooh cross-stitch kits and had a blast! Now I've also picked back up on crochet too. So between the two hobbies (two out of many. I also attempt painting, playing the mandolin and fiddle) I've got tons of things I want to do. I really like the baby book projects. I can't wait to get started. My granddaughter is almost 2 months old now so I've got to get started!
It sound almost tempting, doesn't it?
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Since I began talking with Peggy I just do not have the time to cross stitch anymore. Come to think of it I don't have time for quilting either. When I told my children this they said, "Dad, you have never cross stitched or quilted before." :o Peggy tells me that when she moves to America I wont have time to learn either because we will be too busy making money. :-\ But then again I never wanted to learn it anyway. ;D
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Oh dear Shaun....looks like you will have to take up knitting instead....you can do this while you talk with Peggy ;D ;D
Better start with something simple...like a toupee (hahahahaha)
David
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Knitting? How mundane. Why knit when you can cross stitch or quilt. When was the last time you saw a knitted sweater on display in an art gallery? :o ::) OK, I mean other than on a beautiful Chinese woman. ::) I have seen quilts and cross stitch on display before. :)
And the toupee? Just because I choose to used my hormones elsewhere doesn't mean you have to be jealous of my beautiful head. Peggy likes rubbing it anyway and THAT helps my golf game. :) It makes my putter rise. ;D
Of course you realize this is all humor... or is it????????
I better shut up before Peggy finds out and gives me the angry look.
Good talking with you David.
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Oh dear Shaun....looks like you will have to take up knitting instead....you can do this while you talk with Peggy ;D ;D
Better start with something simple...like a toupee (hahahahaha)
David
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Hahaha David..
Thats a great business idea for shaun. Toupee knitting...lol
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In the past few months I have met many women online at chnlove, clm, cll, and blossom. I have met scammers and prostitutes and ranges of personalities in between, But I give them all the benifit of the doubt in the beginning. When I was first beginning my search I was foolish and trusting and an easy mark but not any more. For most of us with some experience it does not take long for us to discover the true intentions of the lady. The majority of the women I have met are seeking true love and a lasting lifelong relationship. I still chat with some of them and they are all being victimized by unscrupulous men looking for a sex partner while they are on vacation or business trip. I have seen the letters that these men write to them. They are sickening and obvious to me but to a naive Chinese woman that is longing for true love they offer hope of a brighter future. I have been asked for my opinion of certain individuals and when I reply he looks like a player to me the woman becomes frustrated and asks me " are they all like this" " how can I find a sincere man" and then remark " I give up. I will never find someone for me" . I keep telling them there are sincere men out there and I offer them this forum to prove it. I have sent a few women here to browse and see that there are really some good men looking for Chinese wives. So I see nothing wrong with women coming here and joining the forum and perhaps ask a few questions. Perhaps one of us will get lucky and discover a gem right here among us. If she is a player I am sure that the men here will soon root her out. But if she is behaving herself please don't embarrass me by attacking her for no reason.
...Gerry
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Well put Gerry!
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Don't worry Gerry , attacks .. with the new Forum punishment .. will be Deat. ... I mean Ban .
Like Martin said , well done .
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Kudos to Gerry for the post and looking out for the ladies. And Kudos to the Irishman for the seamless transition-Two jobs well done ;D
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I just want to mention that it is I that is responsible for our newest member Rachel from Wuhan. She is one of the women that had asked me for advice in the past and at first I was apprehensive in telling her to come to this forum for fear that she may not be greeted with open arms. But I wanted to help her so I put my trust in you guys and you didn’t let me down. Thank you all for the warm welcome to her and your offers to assist her with her questions. Youre all a bunch of great guys.
BTW this is not the Rachel that is my translator. It’s just a coincidence that they have the same English name. I did help her with her first post and did nothing more that take her sentences that she translated and constructed a couple of paragraphs for her. All the replies from her that followed I had nothing to do with. Thanks again.
Gerry
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Your doing a great thing Pineau for your Lady Friend , as we all ( most of us anyway ) have Women Friends .. found along our way to the Right one .. that we like nothing better then to find them also a good carring Husband as well . They all will receive our same respect and best wishes of course on their Quest , .
The part that we do not like to see/encourage here , is breaking up existing ongoing Relationships .. as single Men are rare on this Forum . So all that bring a Lady Friend here , please remember this . We don't want broken Heart's of any Kind .
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The part that we do not like to see/encourage here , is breaking up existing ongoing Relationships ..
Well...there goes my plan for courting Qing.
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The part that we do not like to see/encourage here , is breaking up existing ongoing Relationships ..
Well...there goes my plan for courting Qing.
Let me see , should I give you a negative point for that thought ???
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In the past few months I have met many women online at chnlove, clm, cll, and blossom. I have met scammers and prostitutes and ranges of personalities in between, But I give them all the benifit of the doubt in the beginning. When I was first beginning my search I was foolish and trusting and an easy mark but not any more. For most of us with some experience it does not take long for us to discover the true intentions of the lady. The majority of the women I have met are seeking true love and a lasting lifelong relationship. I still chat with some of them and they are all being victimized by unscrupulous men looking for a sex partner while they are on vacation or business trip. I have seen the letters that these men write to them. They are sickening and obvious to me but to a naive Chinese woman that is longing for true love they offer hope of a brighter future. I have been asked for my opinion of certain individuals and when I reply he looks like a player to me the woman becomes frustrated and asks me " are they all like this" " how can I find a sincere man" and then remark " I give up. I will never find someone for me" . I keep telling them there are sincere men out there and I offer them this forum to prove it. I have sent a few women here to browse and see that there are really some good men looking for Chinese wives. So I see nothing wrong with women coming here and joining the forum and perhaps ask a few questions. Perhaps one of us will get lucky and discover a gem right here among us. If she is a player I am sure that the men here will soon root her out. But if she is behaving herself please don't embarrass me by attacking her for no reason.
...Gerry
Gerry:What you say these are all real.I thank you very much for helping me.You are a great friend.Have love/like to help others.
These are very good traits.Your fiancee is a happy woman.I am a simple and happy China woman.I want to find my true love.
But my English is very poor. Only a little English.But you were willing to help me.It makes me very touched.
In this money and desire is full of earth.People need love and help.Of course, I will also to help others.Because the earth is our common homeland.
So we need love and care.Help others and by others help is happy.Thank you again for your help!
Application of Chinese sentence:愿天下有情人终成眷属!
From China:rachel