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Title: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on January 27, 2011, 09:27:36 am
well my final push for happiness as arrived
it as taken me from 1976 to finally find my Chinese princess
it as been a very long road
i have so much to say, but how to put it all into words i find hard my be some day i shall be-able  tell you all about my long journey
yes it as left me emotionally drained 
but now i go back to Chengdu to marry my queen
i shall,return to England sell my home and go back to my final resting place in Chengdu
i hope to drop a line or two when i am over don't you just love it when a plan comes together
tomorrow i fly out to Chengdu for my wedding
and not to mention the great time i shall have  during spring festival
my last day in Chengdu is valentines day what a nice way to spend my last day there

i am excited and full of hope for the future
regards joey
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: shaun on January 27, 2011, 11:15:30 am
Joey that is a long time to search.  I am happy for you.  All my to you and your bride.
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: David E on January 27, 2011, 06:02:53 pm
Joey

A happy end to a long journey........I wish you happiness and bliss for evermore  ;D ;D

As my Wife is also from Chengdu, I can picture the exact place where you will get your Red Book, and the 2 dragon Ladies who run the place !! It is not a very impressive room, Spartan really
But that does not matter, when you walk out of there you will be Man and Wife...what a feeling !!!

Well done...best regards...David
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: Willy The Londoner on January 27, 2011, 09:54:07 pm
Hi Joe

!976 to now is only 34 years!  Are you really sure you are not rushing into this!!

Seriously it will be the best move you ever made. 

I have not regretted it for one day. Don't know much about Chengdu but Hong Kong Airport is close enough, if by chance,  my aging process causes any health problem.  Still you are ten years younger than I so not so much a problem for you.

Your last day in Chengdu is my wifes birthday.  God I am so lucky to have easy dates to remember.  So when I say happy birthday to her i will know you will be married and will drink an extra toast to you and the new Mrs Joe.

I take it you will be still keeping an address in the UK for 'administrative purpose'.

Willy
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: Arnold on January 28, 2011, 12:55:09 am
Best to you and your Lady Joe .
But whatever happens .. don't forget us here . Drop us a line or two whenever the time permits it .
Congrat's and may your plans forefill your Dreams .
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on January 28, 2011, 02:27:04 am
thank you
Shaun,David ,Arnold,and willy for your  kind words

well it is the morning of the 28Th January
i am up early not much sleep only 4.5 hours sleep

well that's what happens when your returning to china to see your precious lady ,i am very calm and excited at what lies ahead this next 18 days
if only people new what us guys go through in search for happiness

think that will be our secret
 not many people would do what we are doing

hey willy i hope this year when i have sold my home and moved to Chengdu for good  we shall  meet up and have a good chin wag
think you can give  me lots of input into living in china as time goes by

well time to go out soon and  finish sorting things out you know the sort things  checking with bank about my use of my cards buying toothpast and making sure i have everything  he-he

maybe willy i am rushing into it  but old father time waits for no one
dam it he can be cruel at times   ha-ha cheers mate
regards joey
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on January 31, 2011, 09:42:16 am
hi guys well it as been a little cold here in Chengdu  but the good news is at 9.30AM this morning 31st january
i was married to my Sophia in Chengdu wow what a beautiful and emotional feeling it was

\well they day  was very relaxed we went  to a tea room and toasted our future with many cups of tea then we had lunch
 
and because we were up early  we  later we went home for a short sleep

   tonight we were suppose to be going out with my wife's son for a nice dinner just the three of us  but he had other ideas he wanted to go to is Friends birthday party so of he went

so my wife cooked dinner at home which was my favorite spicy noodles and homemade chicken soup
and  we have been busy putting decorations up for the new year 
so all in all a very good day

sorry my posting as been a little late had trouble connecting to the site but now  everything OK

oh yes David my documentation was accepted by the marriage place only after a long discussion all i needed to do was get the translation done of my single cert
and yes the marriage PLACE IS NOT VERY SPECATACULAR but hey i do  not care i am married to my Sophia now
OK guys well i send you my best wishes will post tomorrow
regards joey in a cold and damp Chengdu
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: JOHN1964 on January 31, 2011, 10:13:16 am
joey, let me congratulate you and your bride, They say that the best things in life are worth waiting for, She must be spectacular, All the best in future years for you both.
Regards from MinYing and John.
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: Martin on January 31, 2011, 10:23:37 am
Congratulations to both you and Sophia.  I wish you both a long and happy marriage.
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: Vince G on January 31, 2011, 11:01:54 am
Congratulations, I guess I'll have to put you into the married section on the Who's your Mate list.
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: Hajo on January 31, 2011, 01:14:25 pm
Congratulations and the best wishes for the lucky couple. May the coming years be filled with happiness and joy!

Hajo
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: mustfocus on January 31, 2011, 02:22:14 pm
Congrats Joe!  Hope to hear more from  you and Sophia!
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: RobertBfrom aust on January 31, 2011, 04:50:13 pm
Joey , to you and Sophia congratulations and a happy time ahead , regards Sujuan and Robert .
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: maxx on January 31, 2011, 05:55:33 pm
congradulations Joe best wishes.For a brite and happy future
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: shaun on January 31, 2011, 07:00:23 pm
Congratulations to you and Sophia.  I hope you both have many years of happiness together.
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on February 01, 2011, 09:20:25 pm
hi guys and good morning from Chengdu
first of all Sophia and myself would like to thank you all for you best wishes you all sent to us very much  appreciated,
well yesterday, we were busy,  we were out shopping for presents for Sophia parents  for spring festival and also looking  for present for Sophia son  who's birthday it will be on Saturday , we also went in to the city as Sophia bought me  my wedding ring that was a big surprises after that we went to a cafe  for lunch, yeah you guessed it noodles wow they were the best noodles i have tasted, after lunch we went to a park and a teahouse, the afternoon was very pleasant the sun was out and not to cold ,
as time went on we departed for home for a quiet evening and relaxation,  for dinner Sophia made chicken and vegetables after  that we relaxed as the folowing day we are busy again , this time going to Sophia parents home for dinner and to be with many family members which should be good as now i am officially a part of the family so this excites me
so once again guys thank you for your kind wishes on  our marriage
so  from joey and Sophia in Chengdu have a good day and speak to you all soon
byeeeeeeeeeeeee
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: Arnold on February 01, 2011, 10:22:58 pm
Joe , just watch your Wife and follow her of what to do over at the Parents house and you'll be okay . She'll keep you out of trouble and not make a fool of yourself .
Sit down and enjoy some of the greatest Food you'll ever have ( I hope )  :P . Oh .. try to keep up with the " Toast's " haha
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on February 02, 2011, 10:56:07 pm
well good morning everyone fro Chengdu , on what is new years day
well yesterday all went well at Sophia parents home
there was a small gathering of people but it was very Nice,
on the menu was hotpot,
 it is amazing that the things they put in the hotpot can taste so good after all it does not look appealing, and i was a good boy i never embarrassed myself once.
there was only one member of the family drinking so we shared a drink of this Chinese white spirit
well actually a bottle and half  so i feel a little delicate this morning ha-ha,
so we gave presents to parents and the children which Sophia mother and father enjoyed ,
and you know when you are part of the family when they give you your first red envelope that was special for me ,
and Sophia mother chose the photo album she wanted as a these were the wedding photos we had done in Sept last year,
so in all guys everything is going to plan which is a big thing of my mind .
later today Sophia and me will be going to a friends home Sophia says we are going to say hello and drink  tea so i will just have to wait and see what develops, as you no guys they do not tell you much suppose it is a kind of a suprice for me when i arrive
so that is all for now guys
with regards joey and Sophia
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: Scots_Robbie on February 03, 2011, 12:19:59 pm
Sorry for the lateness mate...computer trouble.. :o

Big conratulations to the 2 of you.  I hope everything 'good' comes to you both
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: shaun on February 04, 2011, 05:06:23 am
Joe great report.  Glad to hear all is well and fun had by all.
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: Kevin T. on February 05, 2011, 03:05:03 am
Joe, congrats man. Sincerely. I'm new here, so I only have a few posts, but I wish you and your lady the best. It sounds like you are having the time of your life.

Kevin
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on February 09, 2011, 09:32:29 pm
good morning all from Chengdu 
well since my last post  we have been staying  at home some days
and visiting Sophia Friend's for tea and fruit and peanuts on other days
they were all happy to see me and wish me and Sophia well for the future
we have been exploring many parts of Chengdu all the back street  which i have not seen before
all very interresting stuff and we have been  visiting many of Sophia Friends for lunch
the food as been excellent so as the company  it seems very grey and  sleepy  in Chengdu in wintertime
but the one thing is when you look around  all you see is happy and smiling faces the locals realy have a passion for life with so very little
the people of Chengdu are something special  indeed 
i enjoy the spirit of Chengdu life
As a footnote the place Sophia lives is called quingyang district  does any of you guys know of it ?
DAVID E  the weather in Chengdu is around 15-16 c as the day goes on not to bad
OK guys speak later
 time to catch up on all the postings regards joey and Sophia
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: kenny on February 09, 2011, 10:01:44 pm
Hi Joe,

It is good to read your updates and I am happy that things are going good for you. I think I will check out Chengdu on the maps, seems I been doing allot of that these days. I never thought I would feel this way a couple years ago but after reading about everybody that has been in China lately I seem to miss it. Enjoy your time there with Sophia and keep the updates coming.

Kenny
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: David E on February 10, 2011, 03:34:52 pm
Hi Joey

Yes, I agree with you, Chengdu and Chengdu people are  very nice. I always enjoy my time there.

Ming tells me that the Shangri-La Hotel where we stay is in Quingyang district, her apartment is in  Chenghua district.

Our favourite restaraunt is close by there, it is in Wangpin street. Its a bit 'spit and sawdust" sort of a place but the food is awesome, especially the prawn and pork hot pot. Just over the road from the restaraunt is the best massage place in Chengdu, which we go to often. Just by the Shangri-La hotel is a german beerhause, which sells authentic foreign beers and some "not so authentic" German food !!...there is also a Pizza place there, but the Pizzas are rubbish.

Also in the area is a large market where the locals bring all the old/antique odds and ends to sell from little tables. Some real interesting stuff if you look hard enough !!...but a lot of junk also. It is an interesting morning adventure to browse through all the little stalls. It is a good place to get some authentic antique Jade...bit pricey though...better let your Lady haggle for a while if something takes your fancy !!!!

15 degrees is not so bad...but from Perth 40 degrees to Chengdu 15 degrees is too much for me this time  ;D ;D...so off we go to Phuket !! Should be a lot of fun.

Cant wait to see Ming on the back of an elephant on a Jungle trek...she is terrified at the thought of it, but wants to do it anyway...thats my girl !!!
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on February 10, 2011, 04:40:18 pm
thanks for the info David  E
 i will put this to Sophia and see about checking the places of interest out  you mentioned
will have to ask Sophia what are plans  are as i return to England early Tuesday morning
gore blimey David 40c in Perth  not surprised going to Phuket  a little cold for you in Chengdu
mind you keeping to the hot  temperatures  will keep the tinnies flowing just  nicely ha-ha
regards joey and Sophia
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on February 11, 2011, 09:19:54 pm
 hey good morning guys  hope you all well
today the weather in Chengdu is not good pretty dark out side
this last 24 hours we have had lots of rain  :(
well it  is Saturday morning 10 am    our plans for today are
to have breakfast that is when Sophia is out of the shower ha-ha
then we plan to go to the cash machine for some money then of to the supermarket for some provisions
IF we have time i hope to go to one of the many teahouses that Chengdu as  this is were me and Sophia do much talking
already Sophia is feeling a little bit down with my return to England next tuesday  morning at 3.am  you know the feelings guys
at 3.30pm we are invited out for dinner to one of Sophia Friend's
 apparently Sophia   Friend's boyfriend  speaks English  or is from England  so this will be a change for me to have conversation at the dinner table for once yippee
 well you know guys sometimes you feel like a fish out of water at the dinner table when they all speaking chinese ha-ha
yesterday we went out for dinner the first time since my arrival in Chengdu thought give Sophia a rest from cooking
very enjoyable  it was
you guys may think it unusual that we only been out the once for dinner since my arrival
the reason behind  this is i wanted to live they i will be living when i move over for good later in the year to Chengdu
 anyway guys Sophia is drying heir hair so time for shower before breakfast

speak soon guys  have a nice day all of you and good health
regards joey and Sophia
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: JOHN1964 on February 12, 2011, 02:29:54 am
Hey Joe, I know the feeling to well about returning back home, The time in China spent with our beautiful wife's goes too quickly.
I know to well what it is like to sit at the dinner table and know what it is like to to be the fish out of water with the language, I only dined once with an English speaking person and it was a welcome change.
Enjoy the remaining time you two have together and i hope you both are reunited again soon,
Regards from MinYing and John.
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: Arnold on February 13, 2011, 08:01:24 pm
Joe , the threatening Tuesday .. I can imagine .. it is now in the forefront in both your Minds and it get's more and more emotional by the Hour as it get closer . Can I recommend .. what I had done when I left after the Wedding Trip ? I cut a nice ( about 8 inch ) piece of Qings Hair , where it shows the least and took it home with me . This I tell you helped me so much , everytime just feeling/stroking it when times called for it .. being apart and feeling down . It also keeps you as close as you can to the real Woman you miss so much . If she loves you , she will do that . It did not work the other way around , as my Hair was not long enough to leave any for her .
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on February 13, 2011, 08:45:52 pm
thanks Arnold, i see if she will let me have a lock of heir hair

yes today is my last day  in Chengdu
and valentines day so when my queen wakes up we shall have breakfast
and time to go shopping  and as it is the romantic day of the year
red rose for my wife  :)

it seems at the moment i am putting a brave face on it with my imminent return to England
Sophia son is taking us to the airport tomorrow morning at 4am 
so i think Sophia and me will hold back the emotions
but yes it is very hard indeed
but i keep thinking   positive
 i have just herd Sophia wake up and walk into the living room
so time to go guys you understand
regards joey and Sophia
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: Bee964 on February 13, 2011, 08:51:39 pm
Joe,

I understand completely. I am going to try Arnolds suggestion too, if I can manage it. I hope that you and your wife have a fantastic day today.

Dave C
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on February 14, 2011, 05:59:49 am
well the time as come, the day is almost over nothing more to do than pack that dam case :(
my time in Chengdu as been something very special
my strive for happiness as succeeded now it is time to live my dream
yes my dream will continue till the day i die i have  my beautiful Sophia
as the clock comes around to 6.45pm  i am left with a wonderful feeling of being very special
by a very special women  when we try to define our Chinese wife's it is near impossible to find the words
one thing is we no we are special to that one person  and we can only feel this way because of our wife's
the rain is coming down so hard now  but i am left    warm and sunny  inside
oh yes Chengdu is something very special the  place i met my wife Sophia
we have just finished dinner  which was beefand vegetables also  spicy hot pork and hot homemade soup
my Sophia sits and enjoys our last meal  oh yes heir beautiful mile is still radiant as ever
sat just behind her are the flowers i bought for valentines day she is so happy

so for now guys it is good bye from Chengdu( i shall post my thoughts when i get back to England )

regards joey and Sophia
Title: Re: my final strive to happinees
Post by: joeswuhandream on February 23, 2011, 03:29:38 am
Hi all , well i  have been back 8 days  and it is hard to pull  my  thoughts together
nothing can put the pain we all suffer when we leave our new wife's and have to return home

but the feeling i have now,  is that i feel so very happy that i shall be going back to Chengdu to settle
yes Chengdu is like many places in china  many poor people , average incomes  less than adequate plumbing
squat toilets  etc etc , yes Chengdu is rough round the edges ,  but when i look at my own country  it some how makes you feel
i wish i was back Chengdu , in England we have high taxation, full of greed ,what made us great as all been sold off , a society of benefit culture, and a country of people complaining all the time ,many many immigrants claiming benefit at the expense of hard working people, and a government not fit for purpose
when i look at Chengdu  the people do not have  a lot but they are very pleasant they always have a smile on there  faces
they are happy with what little they have  they have a culture rich in value  they are a proud race of people  and now with china with there rise to prominants they are encouraging new business  i saw many new business starting up in Chengdu  maybe the future Will be bright for these people
i for one will witness it first hand   because that is were my home is now       with my beautiful  wife Sophia   
regards joey and Sophia