China Romance
General Discussion and Useful Links => The Campfire => Topic started by: Rachel on March 06, 2011, 02:56:55 am
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In China. Buddhism is not exist this problem. I want to know whether the United States had belief in different. Could not marry? For example:Christians whether can only and Christian together marry?Of course. I know that. Different faiths. Brings many problems, such as one's understanding of life, life values, as well as other aspects can have very different.In the bible, god also ask christians and Christian married.Chinese male christians is very little. Most of them have a family.
That where I am looking for the Christian husband?Appear only in the United States. Because I like the United States. :)
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There is a religious trend here at the forum. There is no Law about religious marriage except by the religion itself. As for what God said? You will have to take that up with him, it's all hearsay.
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Anyone interested can see the Church I am a member of in Zhongshan. Recently gone on the net. www.zs-church.com (http://www.zs-church.com) look it up on google search first then hit the translate and you get it in English.
Pity I cannot click on the Sunday sermon and get that in English while I am there.
Willy
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Thank everybody! Thank your answer. Once I hope very much that your future husband is a Christian. Because we have common faith, each other's outlook on life, the values and same, this will avoid many of life's problems. Because the Chinese male christians is very little. Single men christians less, so I can only find foreign Christian guys. In China, there are also some very good man pursue me, but they are not christians, to the question. I was puzzled. So look for answers.
Thank you again! I'd like to. I have found the answer, as my friend mike said: I need to find a Christian's husband.
Firm faith!I believe in god's help. I can certainly find true love!God be with us!
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My 1st wife had a very strong faith. Strong enough it has led my oldest girl into pursuing Theology and becoming a minister as a career. My faith has always been there but not that strong. It had no impact on our relationship, we had a very good one.
Choose what makes you happy.
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Topic split into 2. look for the split to continue the other debate.
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Hi Rachel
Although you say Chinese Christian men are few I would say that having been attending Churches in China for the past 20 odd months I find that the percentage of Males attending is far higher than in the Western world!
They only places in the World where I have found a higher percentage of Males attending was during my time in West Africa and then it was close to but probably slightly less than 50% there and that is a Male dominated area.
Maybe there should be a special website set up for Christian Chinese to meet Christian Foreigners.
Willy
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I have a Christian friend who used to visit a Christian dating website. He showed me that some of the members were in China. I'll ask him for the name of the website - it must be international.
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My Opinion is yes also. A Christan should not marry a practicing Buddhist. However there are many ladies in China who do not practice any religion. In this case, maybe it could work.
Joe
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My Opinion is yes also. A Christan should not marry a practicing Buddhist. However there are many ladies in China who do not practice any religion. In this case, maybe it could work.
Joe
Welcome Joe , you are so right . I'm a Catholic and my Wife in a Buddhist , but we both are NOT practicing either way . We do go to a Non-Denominational Church often . So we see no problem in our Marriage at all . The word "ADJUST" is an easy word , but very powerful and helpful in a Marriage .
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I am still trying to determine why somebody who is requiring a christian wife be searching in China to begin with! If I was so determined for a christian wife I believe I would be looking a country where Christianity is one of the major religions to improve my odds! I have one simple formula for my life, I treat people like I want them to treat me! I do not try to pressure people into my opinion about anything. I was raised in the bible belt and most of my family calls themselves Christians, out of the whole lot of them I have one elderly aunt who in my opinion lives her life by the book. I am not a practicing christian, but if my children want to go to church I have no objections. The one thing I have noticed about all religions with the exception of a few, is that most major religions now are multi-billion dollar industries. Religion is no different from any big business and corruption can and has run rampant with most on occasion! I think a marriage requires mutual respect of each other's belief or moral standards, you can call your self whatever you want, but without your spouse's respect and support you have nothing. The church can not force a spouse to respect you, your actions and words will earn their respect. The actions and words also need to be balanced, because too much of one and not enough of the other will make you either appear weak or too dominant. When this site first started most everybody here was frustrated with western women and were seeking a traditional Chinese wife or girl-friend, now here we are a couple of years later and discussing whether our relations or marriages will stand the test of time or be doomed because of different religious backgrounds. The woman who asked the original question needs to know, just because someone labels their self a Christian means nothing. You will need to spend a lot of time and get to know them, then you decide if they meet your requirements or definition of a good Christian. Good luck with your search!
P.S. I did divorce my last wife due to religious differences! She thought she was GOD and I didn't!
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There was a Christian church right across the alley from my wife's apartment. When we chat on Sundays, I can hear the singing. Christianity is alive and well in China, and growing.
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My girlfriend is Christian, she regularly attends a nice church in Shanghai. She took me for a walk there, she wanted me to see it. If someone wanted to marry a Christian lady, I think its probably pretty easy to find. For me it wasnt a requirement at all. My two older girls are quite happy about this though, they are very religious.
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Hi Rachel
Although you say Chinese Christian men are few I would say that having been attending Churches in China for the past 20 odd months I find that the percentage of Males attending is far higher than in the Western world!
They only places in the World where I have found a higher percentage of Males attending was during my time in West Africa and then it was close to but probably slightly less than 50% there and that is a Male dominated area.
Maybe there should be a special website set up for Christian Chinese to meet Christian Foreigners.
Willy
haha.Your suggestion very constructive, maybe this day would come. :)
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I have a Christian friend who used to visit a Christian dating website. He showed me that some of the members were in China. I'll ask him for the name of the website - it must be international.
You have a web site? I want to know! Please tell me.
Rachel
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Dear friends! Wow. Here. I saw you really think. I now are trying to understand.In China. Christian church more. A lot of young people choose to read seminary in Christianity, I was a newborn. But I in your faith, I pray to god! Let me get a real love!Thank you! Friends! Let our everyone is happy.
Rachel.
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Hi there,
I was reading posts that I haven't read before and I came across yours. I would like to just write a few comments of what I've seen and learned in going to China, being with my fiancee and remembering what all my Christians friends from my church tell me all the time. All of them tell me to be sure to find a christian girl. Going to China and finding a christian girl? Yeah, right, I thought. The best I could do to come close to what my christian friends were advising me to do was to find a very nice girl with a very good and clean heart. Then I could introduce her to christianity and hope that she would like to be a christian too. Well, my fiancee was not a christian but when I was in China with her, we went to look for a christian church and surprisingly found two . We went inside and heard the surmon and my fiancee liked what she heard and now she goes to church almso every Sunday. She is taking classes in church and was to be baptised in December but she might be coming to Hawaii by that time so she can do it here. She loves to learn and live a christian life so i am so happy. Even though you are looking for a Christian man, be aware that in church across America, divorce rate of the members in church is 50% , just like the non-christian world. So what I am saying is that going to church DOES NOT mean he will act like a christian after being married. Many christians do not WALK THE TALK, if you know what I mean. If both husband and wife really follow the Bible, then I think it will help the couple .
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(I had to stop the other post caused it was preventing me from writing anymore)
I think all religions have good wisdoms on how to live your life and how to treat others well. Perhaps if your spouse is of the same religion, you can always try to be on the same page in your life together. God says that we as a couple should be equally yoked so we go on the same path and thnking in life. I tell my fiancee that if I am not doing what the Bible tells us and i am not listening to her, I want her to tell my christian friends about it and they will scold me as well. I hope she doesn't have to do that , however. he,he,he.
My fiancee said that she learned that after we die, we will not see each other again but in America it is believed that we will be with each other again. I told me fiancee about that difference and that she will be told differently about that but the other "principles" that she tells me she is learning from her teachers in church are the same things we learn from our pastors in America. So I like that very much. But I always remind her that the important things to remember is that we must DO what the Bible says and less of the talking of what it says. So when you meet a man, even a christian man, I think you must observe and go by what he does rather than what he says about how much scriptures he knows. I think what one says comes from his mind, but what one does comes from his heart and you want to see what's in his heart.
Another thing that I was told is "don't go to church to look for Ms Right, go to church to become a MR. Right".