China Romance
General Discussion and Useful Links => Newbies Corner => Topic started by: Sylvain D on July 31, 2009, 03:59:18 pm
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Hi there.
Well, I don't really know how to say what I would have to say, but I'll give it a try, anyway.
As (maybe) some of you may have seen, I've been away for a time, just to "think" about many things, my last story which ended to a "no way", the way I was which may not be "so nice" "so good", and because of many other things.
I'd like to apologize, at first, because I surely was "blind" to love a woman who just played many times with me. And because of that "blind" love, I just did not hear "quickly" most of your advices.
That's why I'd like to thank you all for your advices and because you are helpful.
For sure, I thought sometimes I just would have to give up because too many things to take in consideration.
My chinese is just beginning to be "bad" enough. I can do some sentences, but I must work on it. I found a chinese lady on Paris who helps me, 2 hours/week, and she's just nice and helpful, too. (by the way, she's from Nanjing and lives in France since 5 years)
Well.
About me and ladies in China, so, I just am a bit "cautious" by now, even if some of my contacts there seem to be like the "good ones", but it will be to confirm once I'll be there.
By the way, maybe should I "better" hear and listen to "older" brothers here, because of their experience.
So now, I'm just on the righteous feet, thinking about Shanghai and many things to do there :)
Even if sometimes it is difficult to understand all over here, I can anyway do anything with my english here.
Thanks again for your help and for the brotherhood which is really nice.
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Sylvain, I'm glad to see you back. I think it is human nature to hear what others are saying but not listen. Each person listens in there own time.
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Thanks, Vince;) I totally agree with you. Next time, I'll use any chopstick for my ears if I can't hear "well" at first :D
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Good to see you back mate.
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Thankx, Victor ;)
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Its good to hear what's happening on your journey Sylvain. It's an amazing one. I've really enjoyed hearing about it.
I don't think that everything that happened to you was without value or reason. I think at that time, that was what was meant to happen, and you've taken away what was needed from that experience. You did the best you could at that time, and in time, you will sit and laugh about it.
I think it's always good to be learning and it seems like you've come a long way.
There's no reason to think that this time it's not going to work out really happily. This is something that is worthwhile doing properly, your very best.
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Good to see ( hear ) you back on the Playing Field . But this time ... listen for the Referee call a Foul on you , and give up the Ball . Hahaha
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Welcome back Sylvain , just a thought when I was getting my new Besta translator I am sure I noticed one that not only does mandarin to english but also french if you have one of these in your pocket you are never stuck for words , regards Robert .
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Sly, welcome back brother, and better luck this time around, I'm sure those of us that are married or will be have laft at least one more good one there for you.
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Welcome back Sylvain.. We are all here to help you as much as we can..
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Many thanks :)
Well, I think my next trip just should be nicer than the first one :) plus, it is not the same city ^^
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Welcome back our new Sylvain. Hope you will find your match this time. I guess you have learned more about yourself by this experience as anything else. Learning by doing. You are such a with emotion loaded guy. But this time try not to take it so emotionally before.
Oh Shanghai Ladies, I had my experience with one of them a few months ago. She said " it is part of a competition for existence " and got straight to the point and wanted to know in our 3rd EMFs how much money i make!!! She was real and honest!! I can see she is still searching!!!
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Sylvain
Same as me...I am happy to decided to "get back on the horse"
Are you sure that Shanghai is the best place to be ??.....I have corresponded with a couple of ladies from Shanghai....scary stuff....very dollar focussed !!!!!
Whatever you decide...."If you try you may win....if you dont try, you will certainly fail :):)"
David E
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Hi David ;)
Well, I know I wanted to visit Shanghaï, and Beijing, for sure. I have already thought about Guangzhou, but first, Shanghai.
Why?
It is also a big city, and I have a few contacts there. Ok, only ladies, but I'm sure that 1 or 2 of them seem to be honest and not have dollars instead their eyes :) In fact, I will confirm it just when I will be there. By the way, did you hear about the EXPO in 2010 in Shanghai? :)
I also wish to visit Guangzhou but this is another "reason"... i'll deal about it in my another thread (trip in September)
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Welcome back, brother. I too have had some bad luck with a dishonest lady. It was a bad experience but an experience just the same. We learn from our mistakes. And again, my judgment was clouded by blind love and I didn't listen to pretty much all my family and friends' warnings. I'm down $2500 CAD which could have been saved for my trip to China but I don't look at this as a waste of time or money after more thorough thought. I learned a great deal and it's helped me with my new lady, Jessie. (Qing Xian) As many of you know, she's been my official girlfriend for awhile now. I asked her on Memorial Day of all days lol. (American holiday and I'm Canadian haha) Anyway, long story short, even when things seem dark, there's always a light at the end of the tunnel. Jessie is my light, I'm sure you'll find yours soon. :icon_biggrin:
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Sly sorry I didnt have the oppurtunity to get to know you before you left. But welcome back and its good being your Brother. This trip will rock man believe it.
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Thanks, Joshua and Josh ;)
It's good, having you as Brothers, too :)
Well, it seems that Liyan will be my light, 2 hours once again with her on QQ via webcam and many other things told about OUR future holidays together :)
Well... How to say?
I'll explain it anyway on my other thread (trip ^^)
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Sly , my French Buddy . I see you have found yourself a nice Lady in Liyan . well , I certainly hope this will be a lot less trouble for you , then some other Lady ... aahhh .. forgot her name already . Hehe
Stay focused , ask question's about her Parent's .. how they feel about you and their Daughter ? Get this straightened out before your Trip to see her . well , good Luck with this new Plan and Trip . Wish you a much better one this time around .
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Arnold, that is in fact one of the first questions I have asked her, what about her parents? She just told me they were far away from her, so she could not see them often. I know she will talk to me again about them but this time, it should not be a problem (to confirm asap)
For sure, there are too many things that change since my previous story, nothing to compare, in fact.
Thanks anyway for the luck and your comment, still appreciated ;)
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Sylvain
Hi , how goes it :):)
Yes, I did hear about the Expo in Shanghai...probably millions of visitors and higher prices for everything for a while :):)
I am happy you found another Lady to keep your interest alive...BUT, my friend, please DONT fall in love with her until you meet in person....be strong with yourself and refuse to make a mental committment just yet.
I and all the Bros, dont want to see you go through such a hurtful process again.
I have similar experience to you and I have told myself that it is OK to feel warmth and affection for a Woman but I will NOT consider any other feelings until we meet and can then decide "face-to-face" what we feel about each other.
That is how I am dealing with it anyway....hope all goes well for you.
David E
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Hi David, i'm fine, what about you? the same? ;)
I do understand your reply and agree that man has to control feelings and can better "let it free or not" when being "face to face". I already think that Liyan has strong feelings (warms ones) and it's same to me, but for sure, as we both know, we do see each other only via QQ, and not face to face. So, maybe could we better be sure about our commong feelings when face to face, even if I can guess that it is only the beginning of something special.
Dealing with it is actually not really so easy. How to say? Each day after work, I'm coming back home, it is also more than 10:00 pm for her and she's there, on QQ, talking to me for 2 hours each time. I may "adopted" that "habit" and really like it. So it is for her. I just hope and wish it will go on that way and that in September, the fact to see her will be stronger than by now. If not, it then would sound strange, but man has to think about many ways how stories can be, even in good ways... even in bad ones, too.
Right now, I just see that I really like her, so does her.
Waiting, and wanting. 2 words that are really in my mind, even if one is more to consider than the other one... :)