China Romance
General Discussion and Useful Links => The Campfire => Topic started by: Bob on August 19, 2009, 12:28:59 pm
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Well, I just wanted to share this with all the brothers here, recent update on me and my Tai Tai (lao poa)
I just had a per-interview with my wife and our immigration lawyers via telephone conferencing, total of 5 of us, I was lucky in the sense that there was a Chinese lawyer working at the firm so she helped translate back and forth for my wife. It all lasted one hour, my wife's interview in Beijing is on Monday the 24th of August and the lawyers wanted to have a conference call between all of us to discuss what to expect during the interview process and what type of questions will be asked. The immigration lawyers gave a lot of helpful advice and guidance for both me and my wife (more for my wife since she will be the one in the interview) the lawyers said sometimes they will phone the husband and sometimes they will not, basically depends on how well they are satisfied with the answers my wife will give them, if they are not completely satisfied with a question, then they will probably phone me to get my answer and see if it matches my wife's answer.
I was surprised and a little offended when the lawyers told us that some immigration officers will sometimes ask direct explicit sexual questions concerning our sexual relationship. At first I told the immigration lawyers that "it's none of their damn business", the lawyer said "THAT IS A NO,NO!" He said that he understands that this may seem inappropriate and embarrassing for the lady, however he said that the last thing you want to do is to refuse to answer a question and possibly get the officer upset, do not cause a fuss. He said simply answer the questions no matter what they are and that's all. My wife has mentioned to me that a friend of hers that is married to an American fellow, just completed her interview last month, and the officer ask her sexual questions like " what position does your husband like?", and "how often do you have sex?", WOW !!! I could not believe it !!! I know they want to find out if the relationship is real and all, but that is pushing it !! They may also ask questions like "does your husband have any birth marks on his body or tattoos" Those types of questions are fine. anyways my wife's friend was REJECTED, and the interview was terminated, manly because they forgot to send in a document that was required of her American husband. He has since sent her the required missing document and they have to reschedule a date for anther interview. This obviously causes delays for them.
Our immigration lawyers have advised my wife and I that they have a colleague (lawyer) that is currently in Beijing, and they will ask him if his schedule is free that day so he can accompany my wife to the interview, I thought that would be great.
The lawyers said that the Embassy in Beijing/ office of immigration, is the second most difficult place for the interviews, they seem to have a high rate of refusals, gee, that sucks. :icon_confused:
for those of you that will be going though an interview, you or you wife, or both, must go in there with confidence and basically sell yourself, answer ALL the questions that the immigration officer will ask and be clear with your answers. Make sure all your documents and paperwork is in order and there is nothing missing, your answers must obviously match your information that you have entered on your documents and application,these guys don't fool around.
Well, here's hoping all goes well, on the 23rd we will have our answer, I will keep you all updated.
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Bob, at least your wife won't have to face the BLACK PEARL in Guangzhou, please send our wishes of good luck and best wishes to your wife and here is hoping for a very PINK day for the two of you.
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Good luck Bob, to both you & to your wife!
Thanks for posting whats happening too :)
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Good luck Bob, hope you get it sorted mate...
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Best of luck to you both Bob - hope all goes well.
At least in the UK they are not permitted to ask any questions involving sex. That is regarded as sexual harrassment and the interviewee can be charged with an offence.
Willy
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That is wayyy to inapropriate as far as I am concerned also. Since 911 the government is letting these guys get away with way to much crap all in the name of national Security when it has nothing to do with NS.
Any way, good luck man. Keeping our fingers crossed.
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Hey Bob...since you are further in the process than others of us, can you post some info in the Canadian Immigration thread here http://www.chnlove.info/showthread.php?tid=108&pid=13097#pid13097
Specifically, can you tell us about Beijing...how long have you been in the process...I have heard Beijing is faster.
Good luck with the interview, eh!
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Fingers and toes crossed for you Bob
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Thank you all for your kind words, it is very encouraging to have all the brothers support.
Martin, I will try as soon as possible, at the moment however I am getting prepared for the interview and getting things in order. this Sunday night, the 23rd of August I must wait by the phone from 8:00pm until 12:00am in case the Embassy in Beijing decides to call me. As you all know it will be Monday morning in China at that time.
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The lawyers said that the Embassy in Beijing/ office of immigration, is the second most difficult place for the interviews, they seem to have a high rate of refusals, gee, that sucks. :icon_confused:
for those of you that will be going though an interview, you or you wife, or both, must go in there with confidence and basically sell yourself, answer ALL the questions that the immigration officer will ask and be clear with your answers. Make sure all your documents and paperwork is in order and there is nothing missing, your answers must obviously match your information that you have entered on your documents and application,these guys don't fool around.
Well, here's hoping all goes well, on the 23rd we will have our answer, I will keep you all updated.
Hey Bob,
Good luck, and I hope that everything goes well. Keep us posted, about the Beijing Embassy. My girl will have to go there in the future for her interview, so hopefully you can give us some insight as to what to expect.
RC
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UPDATE,,,,,, I just had my phone call from the Canadian Embassy in Beijing, my wife is currently in her interview (just completed). The officer asked me a few question, took about 10 minutes, then he told me she is ACCEPTED, we PASSED the interview, YIPPEE HOORAY !!!, MY wife will now receive her permanent resident visa to Canada. I am SOOOOO excited. My wife is also very happy, but I also know she is probably feeling a little sad too because she will be leaving her son and family behind. Of course this is normal and understanding. We will try to return to China as often as possible to visit with them.
WOW, what a relief, I can breath again, my wife and I were pretty tense these past few days leading up to this interview. When I phoned my wife early this morning at her hotel in Beijing she was very tired, she was nervous and could not sleep. Well now onto the next step, making the final preparations for her arrival to Canada. I was thinking maybe I will fly down there to meet her and spend a few days in Wuhan then fly back with her to her new and strange world.
My wife was lucky, her interview guy was really nice, he had a British accent, very polite fellow. Her girlfriend however was not so lucky,she received a (Biache) of women interviewer with an attitude, she failed her friend almost immediately. I guess the good man upstairs was looking after us.
Well, it is late, time for bed, I will try to get some rest, but it will be difficult, feels like I just won the lottery. :icon_biggrin: I would like to take this opportunity to thank all the brothers here for their support and encouragement, you guys really helped me to get through this.
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Congrat's to both of you Bob . Hope you have some Finger's left to sign more Paper's later ?
They ask you question , to see if they match your Wife's . right ? Oh , what a relief ... i'm sure of that ?
An extra Trip to carry her over to Canada , hey ... :icon_cheesygrin:why not .
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Thank Arnold, The interview guy asked me how do I communicate with my wife since she does not know much English, I explained to him that I am in the process of learning some Mandarin (slowly) and we have a electronic translator, I also explained that we web-cam each other almost every night for the past year and I write to her in Chinese using a software program, actually we can communicate very well, even when I went to China to be with her on 3 visits to China, we feel so much at ease with each other that we know what the other is thinking most of the time. I also explained to him that I have been to a few of her English classes when I was down there, she went to 2 different teachers in the past year, and the teachers on 3 different occasions they actually asked me to give the course, I did not mind though. Then I went to interview a possible adult school for teaching English for my wife, I asked them many questions like, how do you give your English courses? what is the curriculum? can I speak with the English teachers,,they were not able to answer my questions and refused to allow me to speak to the English teacher, when I asked them if they knew what the word meant in their company name, they did not know! WHAT A JOKE!!! I told my wife that I will teach her English or perhaps wait until she arrives here in Canada and send her to Proper English courses. The officer was happy with that answer,
Then he asked me what I do as a living, I told him I was in the adult entertainment business,,ha ha I'M JOKING, just checking if you are paying attention.:icon_cheesygrin: but he did ask me what I do as a living (job wise) and that just about it! oh and he said that her son must take his medical, I asked him why?, he is not coming to Canada with his mother, he said "yes, i know" but that is the law, So okay, no problem, her son will take his medical, we will mail it to them and that was it, He then said she PASSED the interview and wished us good luck and he was happy for the both of us. In all the excitement I forgot to ask him when we can expect to receive the visa. So that is what happened.
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:blush::icon_biggrin::icon_cheesygrin: way to go and best luck. Now stop biting your fingers.
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Thanks Bob , very much appreciated the insides of him asking you some question's . Well , now I'm nervous as well as my Wife . Hahaha , just kidding .
The Visa at the US colsulate takes about two to three day's and you go and pick it up . The Canadian Consulate , you receive it as soon as they finished their Dumpling's .
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CONGRATULATIONS BOB!!!
All the best to you and your wife. Thanks so much for the updates, and what to expect with some of the questions. I had no idea that they would call us here in Canada. As well, I'm going to get my girl to get a webcam, so we can talk more often. She is kind of shy now about her English abilities, and we just e-mail letters that are translated for her.
Do you know if the girls can ask for a certain interviewer? If so, I'll tell my girl to talk with the guy with the accent, and not the "Biatch". After all, I want my China doll here with me, with no complications.
Where are you here in Canada by the way?
RC
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I had no idea that they would call us here in Canada.
From this website I follow http://www.immigration.ca/discussion2/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=35408&whichpage=70 One man said they phoned his father to see if he was aware of his son's relationship.
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UHH, I can't sleep, too excited (not the dirty kind, get you head out of the gutter, LOL:icon_cheesygrin:)
Arnold, are you sure they give the visa right away? I did not know that, huum, I will ask my wife tomorrow, I just phoned her again a few minutes ago, I asked her when she thinks she will arrive in Canada, she said JIU YUE (September) YES !!! :icon_biggrin:
RC,
I do not think you can ask for a specific interviewer, you get the one that is appointed to you, I am not sure how that works. I live in the stupid province of Quebec, ya, I know,,,,,:dodgy:
I must admit, I have really good immigration lawyers, when I talked to other "brothers" that I have met down in China, none of their lawyers went that extra mile as mine have. Actually one of the brothers was from Ontario and his lawyer did not do a job in my opinion, his wife did not pass her interview (she is the one that got the "Biatch" officer), he had to make an appeal and eventually won that appeal several months later. His wife is still in China and they told him he will have to wait a few more months before his wife can come to Canada, strange? why all the delays?.
The other "Brother" was from the USA and his wife was also refused because of missing documents. They have to reschedule an appointment with the American Embassy. (more delays)
If anyone from Canada wants the name and website of my immigration lawyers, just send me a PM. Doesn't matter what Province you are from. They supply you with all the immigration documents and files needed, you can access your files 24/7 via there website, you are given a personal account number. They review the completed documents to ensure everything is correct and in order and they mail everything to the Canadian Embassy in Beijing,really much less hassles. They have many years experience with immigration, and as I have stated before they even gave my wife and I and pre-interview one week before the actual interview along with a Chinese translator for my wife, we were 5 in all via telephone conferencing. They explained to my wife and I what to expect during the interview in Beijing and gave us some good advice and guidance. Here is the best part, they offer you a flexible payment method, so you can pay in installments over the months. Again if you want the link just PM me and I will also tell you how much they charged me so you can compare what is the best option for you. Yes, they speak English (they are English) I had excellent service with them. GEE, they should pay me for giving there law firm a plug,,:icon_biggrin:
oh, I almost forgot, the officer that interviewed my wife didn't ask her any sexual questions, I was happy to hear about that, I guess it just depends on the officer you get.
Thanks again guys.:icon_biggrin::icon_biggrin:
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CONGRATS!!! Bob, I am sure the two of you will be very happy, now maybe you can relax a little, by the way did you clean the house?, even if you did go and check the bar that the hangers go on and make sure it is clean( no joke ),also make sure that you take all of your socks out of the dirty clothes hamper and put them in a seperate little laundry bag, this is a big thing to the Chinese women, it must be, I have been yelled at more then once for this and after the second time she called me a stupid man, oh and you will see that she will not wash socks with any other laundry and undies are seperate also, expect to have your clothes picked out for you and for her to help you get dressed like a child ( I think this is cool, I'm color blind, hehehe), you'll get used to it, I think JimB is finding this out now, and before I forget, get used to being told," don't eat that, not good for you" and only having maybe 1 or 1 1/4 ounces of meat a day but, be ready to eat like a king and be treated like one too.
Good luck and best wishes brother.
Mike
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Conrgrats Bob! Out of curiosity, why is her son not coming with his mother?
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Congrats mate...well pleased for you...:icon_cheesygrin:
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This is good news. It's rare to hear about the final stretch with so many still waiting. Congrats!
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Well congratulations Bob and soon you two will be together.
long road and journey almost over. Wow i cant believe that
they would ask sex questions????? What revelance does that
have??? Any person with any common sense would know that
two people in love and married do this. That has nothing to do
with the issue at hand. Just seems like an abuse of position and
nothing you can do about it. Well at least it worked out for you
and your wife didnt have to be uncomfortable answering those
kind of questions
Ted
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Wow i cant believe that they would ask sex questions????? What revelance does that have??? Any person with any common sense would know that two people in love and married do this.
I am friends with a local business man that told me of a lady he knew that had a man living with her. They married and she applied to sponsor him. Now remember this is an in country application. When they got the interview, they had seperate interviews. When she was asked how often they made love, she replied about once a week. When they questioned him, he replied once a month. Needless to say their application was rejected. The main reason for Hong Kong's drastic wait times - bogus marriages.
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WILLY, WHERE ARE YOU?
What's the news there? How are you adapting? What's happening bro?
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Bob ... Congratulations !!!
I think the British guy had a crush on your lady, hehehe !!! I guess you can't do your second job at the peeler joints on St. Urbain anymore. :icon_cool:
All the best to you and your wife in Montreal. Do you live anywhere close to the Chinatown on La Gauchetierre / Blvd St. Laurent ???
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Thank you all for the Congrats,
Chong my friend, WOW, you know too much about my town,:icon_cheesygrin:, I almost never go to Montreal, for some reason I find the people there strange? LOL.
I am sitting here in front of my laptop waiting for my wife to come on-line, I want to get all the details about the interview from her, I will let you all know what happened as soon as I know.
Talk to you soon.
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Bob,
Montreal's my hometown also. I lived there from '62 till '79 ... that's 19--, not 1862-1879 ... hahaha
Your wife HAVE TO TRY THE "BUTTER ROLLS" at the Chinatown bakeries. They're the best, nobody here in China makes them at all. They look like a normal swirling bun but they ooze with butter inside them.
Which suburb/city do you now reside ???
Yes ... Thank You. Martin, RC, Rhonald and I would love to hear what questions your wife was asked.
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WILLY, WHERE ARE YOU?
What's the news there? How are you adapting? What's happening bro?
Still around - been travelling to Xia's homeland of Shaoguan where we intend to live in the New Year. Been to meet all the family and got on very well and we both received lots of Red Envelopes when we left yesterday which is going towards the new apartment we are buying in Shaoguan.
I feel as though I have lived here for a long long time but it is only just 2 months.
Maybe I will do a two month report next or maybe leave it until 3 months.
Willy
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Well Willy it looks like the streets will be safe for all the ladies in your
city now that Xia has taken you off the streets and is making you settle
down.. hahahaha just joking maybe the four of us could go there
when im there in a week and half. wow now im getting antsy
Ted
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which is going towards the new apartment we are buying in Shaoguan.
As a foreigner marrying a national, will you be able to be a co-owner with your wife for the apartment's registration ? What's the average price for a 3 bedroom fully constructed [ including the one-time registration fee & garage ] ?
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Greetings brothers
Just want to say Congrats to Bob and his lady. Its about time we heard good news around here. I am sure you are both gonna be very happy together. Thanks for the great story really inspires the rest of us to hang in there and see it through.
Congrats again
Brian
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Don't you believe it!! ...Willy is a full blown Londoner,
Fully versed in the art of ''ducking and diving''.
Seriously, ... it does look as if he's hanging up his spurs now, ..hahaha!!
Best of luck to you out there....Have a happy life the pair of you...
David....