Irish, don't worry.
I am sure I am the only one having to deal with this dilemma.
Doesn't make it easy for me, but at least I have her brother on my side.
She said 200000. I say 20000 (with her brother's endorsement)
If she has lost face through this, I cannot come up with the difference to restore it. She has lost some trust in me, but I have not changed in my feelings or in my intentions one little bit, so I have nothing to reproach myself for, except perhaps not telling her that I am not a rich man.
I have stood my ground and told her that I want to register our marriage in December, and have the wedding meal in April. She seems to have accepted this. I'll let you know when I see her on Tuesday. She may have taken a contract out on me and I may be in for a tough ride. Bigbutt, if you in Changsha, you may have to cover my butt!
There may be trouble ahead, but while there's moonlight and music and love and romance, let's face the music and dance.
So, Irish, take my situation as wholly unrepresentative. Forget about my freakish situation. Sunny is a whole other kettle of poisson. After your wallet experience, you can be assured that you have nothing to worry about with your little bowl of sunnyshine.