I came here because I want to have a long, lasting, and fulfilling relationship with a Chinese lady. I wrote before about why I want such a relationship, (
http://www.chnlove.info/index.php?topic=2336.msg39207#msg39207) but what brought me to the forum was because I was impressed that the goal is for each brother to find the relationship they want in life, not just simple carnal fulfillment but to have a true, deep, meaningful relationship with the lady they choose to be their wife. This is the strength of this group. When the link was first shared to Crystal’s blog I read it with interest. Some of the entries I thought were a little short, and would liked to have had her go into more detail about some of the aspects of a relationship she was talking about, but in the end I found her words to be sincere and encouraging.
I was reading some of the comments on her blog and was quite sad in reading the one that someone posted that said simply. “Tell us how to pick up Chinese girls.” WOW I though, that is the exact opposite of what I came here to learn about. As Crystal said herself in one of her postings here; “If informativeness of my blog equals to giving spicy tips on how to bed Chinese girls - then I prefer it to be lame.” I applaud her for these words. The internet is filled with many sites that give advice, sell materials or many other offers that claim to help a guy have more success in bedding as many girls as he can imagine, I don’t see why there needs to be any others. As I was saying in the first paragraph the thing that drew me to this forum is because it is exactly NOT about such endeavors. I was thinking about the comment the guy made about wanting advice to “pick-up women,” maybe I should go back and copy my thoughts in response to his comment, but what I was thinking is that; “If you want to sleep with Chinese women to fulfill your fetish for Asian girls, maybe you’d be better off finding a local brothel or an escort/prostitute/sex provider to fulfill your carnal urges.” I’m sure his response would be something along the lines of; “I don’t pay for sex.” To which I’d respond that he’s willing to admit that he’s so shallow that he is willing to bed any girl who’s easy enough to give it up after just a few hours of conversation in a bar, but to cheap or broke to pay for a quality lay. After all, wouldn’t you rather be with a professional who knows how to fulfill your fantasy then some amateur that might only be out to have her own urges gratified and not care one bit about your needs? I’m sure there is only room for one person with that attitude in your bed and you’ve already filled that space.”
Any way, I’ve gotten off course a bit maybe, but I wanted to share the thinking behind the post and also vent a little. Bottom line is that the reason I came to this forum is because I want to find a lady who wants to build a real relationship and a loving family and this group is committed to those goals also. We are here because we see the value in helping others avoid landmines that we have encountered on our journey. We call ourselves a brotherhood, and like any family we have our disagreements, but one thing I think that we can all agree and focus on is that we want success, not only for ourselves, but those who come here in search of the same thing.
