Turns out that my wife refused to go to an internet cafe in Handan too as of the low life's that would normally occupy them , I nearly ended our relationship early as i thought i was being played by our translator, turns out that i was completely wrong and i am glad to say that i stayed with the EMF,S , Now i am happy to say that we spend MANY hours each night talking about trivial things and our relationship has come leaps and bounds from where we first started, It is not all bad out there, John.