Hi everyone from Cape Town, South Africa
Have just signed up and would be most grateful if experienced Chnlove members out there could answer a few of my queries:
1. After being on Chnlove.com for just over a year (off and on) now, I'm confused! At first, I decided to write to one lady at a time to try building a serious relationship that way. But, each time I have done that, I've been badly burnt. My question is, can we take it as a given that the girl we are communicating with is communicating with others, regardless of what she says or what we believe?
2. After being burnt so many times, I have now adopted the policy of communicating with 2 or 3 girls at a time instead, building 2 or 3 serious and meaningful friendships first, before meeting in person. The girls don't know about each other - should I be telling them or not? The reason I have not is that, for all I know, they are all doing the exact same thing (i.e. communicating with several men at one time), so why should I tell them if they're not telling me.
3. I've written to Chnlove several times about the agencies refreshing girls profiles at will, most often knowing that several of the girls have already built up serious relationships on Chnlove, and that refreshing the girls profiles could wreck those carefully built up relationships. What can be done here and how do you all feel about this?
4. What do you do when a girl who says she is crazy about you, says she will only be able to meet you during the day when you visit? Should I say something or just take it that this is a traditional Chinese lady, who may be a bit nervous being alone with a Western man in her city at night, for numerous understandable reasons?
My sincere thanks in advance for all your help!
Best wishes from South Africa
Peter
PS I will be in China at the end of this month to begin my teaching job & meet my Lady! Would anyone like to meet me while I’m there?