In four weeks I will be returning to Zhuhai to visit my darling woman, Yang.
The first time I visited her I made no plans for the time I was there. I was her guest and each day she took me out, and I had a really fantastic holiday.
I don't have anything romantic in mind for this second visit. This time I am bringing my daughter along for this visit. I am just going over there to enjoy Yang's company, and to have a fun and carefree time while I am there. I have no fear that we are going to end up as just good friends with Yang. Her letters and telephone calls are as warm and loving as anything I could have ever hoped for. I hear from her every day or two, and I really feel confident in what there is between us.
I recently asked my good woman, whether she would like to make any plans for the two weeks I am there, or whether we should just make it up as we go along. I got no reply to this question, which suggests to me that I would do best to just let her work things out for the time I am there.
I will have some back-up plans (eg using Maxx's suggestions, and the Lonely Planet guide) to fill up any time that she is not spending with us.
If I was dating an Australian woman I would organise the two weeks myself, down to the last detail, to show the kind of things that interest me, what I enjoy, what life would be like with me. I would negotiate the detail with an Australian woman, and after some give and take, we would reach some kind of an agreement about what was going to happen on the holiday.
But my sense of what's expected when I visit Yang is that I am going to be her guest and she's going to organise it for me - that it's best to just float along with whatever she has planned. I am thinking that if I organise anything, she isn't going to be really pleased with this. That it will suggest to her that I don't trust her to work things out for us all.
If anyone has any suggestions about what I'm planning I would really appreciate it.