Well, it is time to try and finish my story. I am back in the States now. Arrived last night about 10:30pm. Slept all night and half the day today. Have one more day before returning to work.
Really enjoyed the updates Don. Did you ever figure out of something was bothering Sha?
Martin, As a matter of fact, I think I did. I am getting to that.
When we first arrived in Beijing, Sha got a call from work. She had forgotten to leave the key to the safe at work. So we kind of laughed at that a little. Kind of an important thing to forget. Then they called again later in the day and I guess wanted her to come in Sunday. Which meant she would have to leave Saturday. Ok, I understand no problem. she had already told me she misunderstood. Thought I was leaving Sunday instead of Monday. And she had taken all week off from work. I knew she would have to make it up somehow, so was not too upset by this. I don't think I said before, but I had kept asking Sha if something was wrong and what was she thinking. She had told me "Mother worries". So I knew that wasn't good. So Thursday night about 12:30am her phone rings. Its mother. I asked again if a problem she says, "Mother worried". So she gets 2 more calls within probably about an hour or so. Mother again. Then she wanted me to be quit, because we are not supposed to be in same room unless married or engaged. She says mother wants me to come home soon as possible. And asks me what she should do. Well, me being the selfish person i am, and at the moment not having real kind thoughts about "mother", I finally told her "I would like you to at least stay tomorrow (Friday) and then if you must, leave as early Saturday as you need to." She seemed satisfified with that and its what we did. So, I guess the problem is "mother". I knew family had a great impact on daughters, but her being divorced and already having a child, i did not think she would have that big of a hold on her. And I really think this is the problem. I do not think she is telling me any kind of lies. By having such a good time before and then after, this complete change. To tell you the truth it really blows my mind. I had trouble with the one mother-in-law that I did have. Always putting things in my wifes head and trying to get us to do this or live there. Didn't work then, and probably wouldn't work now. But, heck, at the time, I thought she was a nice lady.
Anyway, Friday, we continued our touring Beijing. First, we went to the Beijing Harley Davidson store. I just had to have a t-shirt with Beijing on it. And of course, several of my Harley friends wanted me to bring them back one, too. So, I spent about $300 US on t-shirts. Then we went to the Forbidden City and spent the afternoon there. Once again, a lot of walking and more steps. Those Chinese have a thing for steps. We took pictures and saw the sights. While I was there in China, I saw 3 or 4 temples. Got so they all looked the same to me. Then we ate and went back to hotel room. Later that night, I got hungry again and was tired of hearing other people talk outside our room. I had told you that it was very noisey in our hotel. I asked if she wanted to come with me. I was only going to KFC. She said no, you go ahead. We hadn't talked much, so I thought "what the heck, why stay here, we're not communicating much anyway." so away I went. Welll...I stayed away a little too long I guess. When I got back she was coming down the elevator going to look for me. The next day she said she was not happy about that. That it made her unhappy. She thought I had gone wrong. I took it, she thought I got lost or something. Which could have happened very easily, as I am terrible with directions. But, then again, I didn't think it really mattered. She wasn't saying anything, only when I asked her something. Otherwise sleep and watch tv. So hey, I didn't think much about going to eat and then look around a little. The next morning before she left to go back to Handan, we went shopping at the market. Man, Everyone was waiting at the door for it to open, and it wasn't minutes until it was packed. You couldn't even stop to look at things. I stayed with her for about an hour, then she asked if I was tired I could go back to the hotel. So away I went. She came back about 12:15pm and then had to leave about 12:30 to catch the train to Handan. It was leaving at 2pm. I put her in the taxi, gave her a kiss on the cheek, she waved goodbye and that was it. Needless to say, i am very dissappointed in this adventure. Everything going so well and then the complete turnaround. If things had continued as they did the first 3 or 4 days, there is no doubt, I would have asked her to marry me. But after the change, i didn't think that would be a good move. Oh yeah, I also got her to call the owner of the agency for me. She wanted to know why, and I told her. Said I needed to know why this change and couldn't get anything out of her. The owner, Echo, a very nice lady and speaks very good english. She told me Sha's mother was worried and now that the reality of my being there and this really happening was making Sha think more about it. And she was concerned about the language barrier. All legitimate concerns, but going from happy, laughing, kissing, holding hands, and so on, to going almost into a shell. I don't know. it's a puzzle to me. She knows of this forum, also the agency knows of it. Whether they moniter it or not, I do not know. But some things I will keep to myself for now. But mostly, I have given all the facts in hopes you can shed a little light on this for me. She had asked if I wrote anything on here about her. I told her I had written everything was going great. And at the time it was. So she didn't seem upset by that. I sent her an emf letter today. i had told her I would write her when I returned to the US. I basically told her I did not understand the situation. but I would and could wait a while for her to get to know me better. That is if that is what the problem is. If she keeps doing the webcams, i guess I will know she is still interested. if not, guess not. We usually do webcams on her Saturday mornings. so if I see her then, and get a response from the emf I sent, things may be ok. Told her I liked her very much and missed her already (which I do). But I am not a kid, so if it does not work, things will go on. Spring is about here, i have a Harley to ride, and lots of pretty girls to look at. so things will go on. But I will wait awhile on Sha, to see what she says or does. By the way, if I didn't mention it, when we visited her agency, she even told them to hide her profile. So, at the time I know she was interested.
That's about it for now. Its one of those "will just have to wait and see situations". Am posting some pics
the family
getting a (SURPRISE) complete body massage
meeting friends
at her house
Echo & ladies at agency
in Beijing
temple Forbidden City
Don't ask, don't tell
Don