I feel a bit compelled to add a bit more to this current topic, and this is my opinion only, and it is open to challenge.........like it should be in any frank and open exchange of views here .
When we are debating what should be the content of any thread that seeks to be a "vent pipe" for various stresses and strains we feel, perhaps we should take a little pause and think carefully about what this whole Forum is all about.
Why are we here, what purpose does it all serve
I believe there are 3 fundamental drivers for this Forum...Number 1 is the collective knowlege from many, many Bros who have already, or are in the process of finalising their engagement/marriage/relationship with a Chinese Woman. What they have learned along the way...by REAL experience, not theory, should be worth gold for any others contemplating doing the same.
Driver number 2 is our ability to be of some rational service for those who seek information about the whole process and wonder what is involved in the "journey" to find a Chinese wife....I refer to the newbies who are looking for good, interesting and relevant information as a guide to where to begin and what are the traps and tricks.
Driver number 3 is the pure fellowship of being in touch with a bunch of guys who are doing something difficult, exciting and life changing and the knowlege that you are not alone in this some times horrendous process.
The face we present as a credible information source is important......for somebody coming here, it should be a pleasant and rewarding experience....give them some confidence that we do know what we are doing !!!!
To see any part of the Forum descend to people bashing, or personality assassination gives a seriouly flawed picture to any body visiting, and we may not be seen as rational !!!
Like most people here, I have visited many such sites in the past...where it is a long procession of profanities and mud slinging about personalities.......and it aint pretty or informative.
I dont want to be a part of something like that, and I am sure that most of you would agree with me
If we have the confidence to know that we can openly challenge any ISSUES posed here that are incorrect/dangerous or misleading, then we should have the right to do so. If we believe, based on our own experience , that someone is on the wrong track, is giving misleading advice, then again we must be free to challenge. This way, the right knowlege gets out there and no feathers get ruffled because it is NOT personal.
If we set ourselves the objective of being the best provider of accurate help, information and guidance...we cant go far wrong !!!!....not necessary to descend to mediocrity.
David
