I started writing to my beautiful woman from Zhuhai in October 2008. This was all done through chnlove emf mails and so up until the time I actually laid eyes on her in January 2009 I wasn’t 100% sure she actually was a real person or not.
In January 2009 I visited her and it seemed everything was working out. Then on the night before Chinese New Year’s Eve she must have had second thoughts about it all and she told me that it would be better if I didn’t come to her family’s celebration. I knew what she meant by this, because we had talked about this night and this celebration many times in our letters. I was just devastated by the way my visit had ended up and I spent the remainder of my trip holed up in my hotel room, in complete and utter misery.
I got back to Australia. I tried to get in touch with her a few times, but her mobile phone was swtiched off. I sent her emails but no answer. I sent her emf mails but no answer.
According to the agency the emf mails were all delivered and when I asked them to confirm that they actually had delivered them, I only got the following reply: “Thanks for your sincere letter. It has been delivered to the lady. She would try to get in touch with you directly. Hope you can understand and wait patiently.”
She disappeared for about a month.
For a few weeks I just gave her away, but in late February I do not know what I was thinking and I started to send her emf mails again, but received not a word in reply.
As an aside, I just want to make it clear that I have made mistakes in this relationship. If I was starting this relationship from scratch there are things I would certainly have done differently. So I don’t consider myself blameless, far from it.
Then suddenly one day in early March 2009 I got an emf mail from her out of the blue. I replied to that one, and then she replied to mine. Day by day the emails started warming up again.
We started chatting on the phone and that was lovely too.
For a while we’ve been talking about me visiting again and so I have planned to visit Zhuhai in September 2009 with my daughter.
Around a month ago, she wrote to me:
“I understand your heart for me now , Danny, since I have met you last year, I really feel so happy, frankly, you just like a fabulous man happen my life now, and I think I need time to make me ready well to accept you run into my life complete and safely finally, sometimes I really found I still in a beautiful dream since I met you, I can’t believe you are so wonderful man happened in my life, and I think we need to meet each other again and I plan a trip to visit you and we make a rational decision for us finally, do you agree with that ??”
I didn’t take this seriously. I just thought she was talking about a visit sometime in the indefinite future.
Even when she told me about making plans for a passport and visa, I didn’t pay much attention to it. I just thought she was being affectionate and showing that she was warming to the idea of a relationship.
But today on the phone she asked me whether I would mind if she brings her sister and son with her when she visits, and I said that it sounds just wonderful.
Now I have just got off the phone, and I am breathless, to say the least. I sure wasn’t expecting that.
Of course, I might have misunderstood it all, and it all might all come to nothing at all, but then again, I may have a little crowd of visitors at my front door soon . . . much, much sooner than I imagined in my wildest dreams.
I don’t know how I am ever going to get to sleep again thinking about this all.
Danny
