It's hard to know, in my humble opinion, what's the right thing here.
If you were being sensible about the whole matter, finding someone in your own city, from your own background, is a whole lot easier.
But if what is real for you is a dream, then maybe that's the way to go for you.
Dreams have the ability to transform reality.
I am thinking of the passion it takes to become a wonderful musician, or dancer, or marathon runner.
I play the piano, so I know a little about what it takes to play that well, how long it takes, the discipline and loneliness of practice.
If you thought about all the suffering you go through to accomplish any of these things, maybe you wouldn't choose to do it, or maybe you would.
If it doesn't work out, that's okay, that's always a possibility.
I am not sure how much is just luck. There's pleasure there, but I reckon a lot of it is a willingness to learn, hard work, commitment, those sort of things.
Danny,
I couldn't agree more with you! ...The more you both put into the relationship, the more you have between you. The more you have between you, the better your chances of having that lasting relationship, that we all crave for here.
David.....