Hello
I currently live and work in Japan.
I have always had Chinese and other asian friends thru out my life back in the states, close friends.
I find that some Chinese and Japanese still have this kind of dislike towards each other without really having a valid reason for it. I know that there are some Chinese(maybe a lot of the older generation) who still harbor seeds of hate and anger from the early and mid part of last century because of what the Japanese did to the Chinese.
Here in Japan some of the Japanese don't like the Chinese because they feel some of them come over here and live off of the welfare system and or come here and cause trouble and so on and so on.
I have always been a person who accepts people for who they are regardless of their race or back ground.(My family background is highly mixed)
In America I did not see much asian racial dislike towards other asians.(At least I didn't see it so much) Americans of asians decent who grew up in America are quite different from asians who grew up in China, Japan, Vietnam, etc.
I like the Japanese culture and people as well as the Chinese culture and people as well as other asian cultures. I like Aikido, I like gung fun. I like sushi, I like Chinese food( I don't give any specific Chinese examples because the Chinese food here in Japan is very different from the ones in America. There is a China town close to where I live) I like Toshiro Mifune and I like Jet Li.
So how would I be involved with a Chinese lady and still keep my interest? I have asked the ladies that I correspond with about their feelings toward Japanese and they all said that they do not like them. They could not give me a specific reason why. One of the ladies used to study Japanese and is open to learning more about Japan.
I asked some of my Japanese friends about their feelings about Chinese people and a couple of them said that they do not like Chinese people(for the reasons mentioned earlier). But I know that Japan is kind of a xenophobic country in a sense. Yet there is many Chinese things here and Chinese food is very popular here. I think that most of the young generation here doesn't really care if a person is Chinese. I think that some of the older generation care.
Plus I know that usually a lot the fashion in Hong Kong usually starts in Japan and comes over there.
So what would be a good way to have a relationship with a Chinese lady and still keep the things that I am interested in? I really hate racial prejudice.
Help please